My boyfriend has always been the type to speak his mind about people. He feels that he has quite the gift of knowing people just by their body language. It does not bother me until he starts analyzing my friends and family. In the past he has made little comments about my family saying that he probably would not like them based on the little things that I tell him about them. Another time, I showed him a picture of another family member and his response was that he looks like he would not get along with him based on the way he was standing in the picture. This last time I just could not keep quiet anymore and revoked my invitation for him to meet my family. It bothers me that he is so pessimistic about meeting anyone important in my life. When he makes rude comments about them without meeting them, it just reinforces my hesitation to introduce him to them. Am I wrong for saying I don't want him to bring him around my family because of his negativity?

Do you know his family? How does he get along with them? Does he have any friends?

I have never met any of his family, he claims that he is not close to them. I have only met a couple of his friends that he regularly works out with. They are very different from him, the only thing it seems that they have in common is the fact that they enjoy working out. They seem very humble though.

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Originally Posted by ilivetolove

I have never met any of his family, he claims that he is not close to them.

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Hmmm, wonder why not. It might be the bad vibes they get when they see him coming their way.

Possibly. Or vise-versa. :/

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Originally Posted by ilivetolove

Possibly. Or vise-versa. :/

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*chuckle* Too true.

Now, what can we do to get him enjoying being on this planet with the rest of us mortals?

I don't know. I just want to be able to finally introduce him to my family, because they are important to me. But, I don't want to introduce them if he's going to be Mr. Negativity about it. Am I in the wrong for not wanting to if he's going to be that way?

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Originally Posted by ilivetolove

I don't know. I just want to be able to finally introduce him to my family, because they are important to me. But, I don't want to introduce them if he's going to be Mr. Negativity about it. Am I in the wrong for not wanting to if he's going to be that way?

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Stop thinking about it and just do it, for pete's sake. Then draw a line in the sand -- no commentary from him about anyone.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Stop thinking about it and just do it, for pete's sake. Then draw a line in the sand -- no commentary from him about anyone.

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Lol. Thanks.

I think you are wrong with staying with this person! He is so negative that I would not want to be around him at all!
I am 70 yrs old, and am still a fairly positive person. I really think you would be happier with someone else! I do wish you good luck.

Tell him if you had to judge him on the way he stands.. he wouldn't be standing next to you now.

But being the person you are.. you didn't judge his book by his cover :)

Don't introduce him to your family and don't spend any more time dating him. If you stay with this guy, he will insult the people you love for the rest of your life, and will also think that he knows you better than you know yourself and will "analyze" what you have to say instead of listening to you. Life's too short for negative people - go find someone great instead.