Originally Posted by
avadot
Well following on from my last message. I did what you suggested and popped to see him. When I got there he asked why I had come without letting him know and I said that I wanted to get things sorted between us. He was on the defensive and became quite flippent and I said there was no need to be nasty, he said he wasn't it was his his way. I said I had been to see him Friday when he asked me to call and he was in the kitchen most of the time cooking and washing. When I went today again he went to make his dinner and left me in the sitting room on my own again. So I go up and put my coat on and went into the kitchen and stood there he kept on doing what he was doing. So I said "so you are still ignoring me what is wrong why are you being this way with me when you were do nice to me 3 mths ago when we met"? He said "Welcome to the big bad real World". He was very sarcastic and then said if you want to finish with then "F...K OFF". So I came out of his flat drove home very upset and text him 2hrs later to say that he has treat me as if I was a piece of s.....t and cannot keep calling the shots in the relationship and keeping me dangling on a string and only sees me when he wants to and that he has been controlling with me. I told him that my ex-husband had been the same with me and I was not letting it happen again. He was the one who asked me to be in a relationship with him and now he has gone cold toward me for what reason? When I was with him previously he kept hoing on about his last wife who took everything and left him bankrupt with no house and car and he had to live with his friend for a year. He has not worked for 18mths hasn't got any money to do what he normally did, go to the gym, have a nice car and a nice home. I told him I feel that he is taking it out on me for what his ex did to him and it is not acceptable. I have helped him with food etc for 12wks he didn't ask for anything I did it myself and bought him a gas heater for his flat and he also at one point previously said "He didn't ask me to get him anything" the same way he said, "I didn't ask you to come and see me today and you have interuppted my day and what I like to do". In other words why did I call today? He won't talk about us or what is goping on and just tells me to shut up. In the past he has been ruthless but the next day text me as if nothing has happened and said. "Good Morning Babes how are you today?! I just don't know what to think as deep down he is a nice bloke and can be very romatic but for some reason is taking his anger out on me? He starts work in 4 wks time so at the end of my text I said, "I hope when you start work you settle and get money and get your life back to the way you want it to be".
I want him to sort this out with me but he won't and just keeps saying he is the way he is and that is that but most of the time we are good together and he keeps saying he dosen't want to loose me? After today I don't know what will happen. If he is really gutted I have sent him the text and told him what I think he may just let eveything lie. If he does then he obviously is not bothered hemight have lost me. Shall I just leave it all now and let him think of everything and see if he relents and contacts me or do you think he won't and he has really been trying to push me away and I have called his bluff and gone?
