Hello,

We are really happy with my girlfriend planned to make future together, now she's away for 6-12 months, but than she told me she will come back, leaving family and everything behind. I know her well so I believe her.
The problem, that she told me she still has feelings for her ex. They live in the same city now, me 9000kms/5600 miles away. She told me, she is avoiding every contact with him, because she stills love him but she loves me more and she wants to come back to me. The problem what if these 2 meet... who knows what will happen and still 6-12 months is a long time... anything can happen. I feel our relation could be really serious but I don't like this. I love her fully, I cannot even think about other girl... I can't understand how the hell she can love 2 guys, I cannot accept it. Even if she loves me more and chooses me I feel myself incomfortable, I cannot get it, I want her full love and not like this. Can you please give me some advices? What would you do?

I would tell her exactly what you just wrote. I've been in a "i love you... BUT i love her too" situation and it is not fair on you. Tell her that you want all of her love, not a percentage and that the fact that she is moving a way for such a long time with only a section of love for you isn't good enough. It's not fair for you to stay true to her and wait a long time for her to still love another person.

I would suggest speaking to her and letting her know that the situation is hurting you and that you need to know things are definite before you let her go live in a city with her ex. If she doesn't understand your point then I know I wouldn't trust her.

Emily Rae.