Hey guys as some of you know I've had this problem with this women in the office :)


She was with someone and when they went threw a ruff patch she jumped on me I held back as much as I could.. witch meant no sex but I still think kissing hugging and all that other typ of stuff is still like a relationship.. sex is always good but its just the iceing on the cake.. well she did play with me for about 9 months which is pretty long.

Anyway so she is back with him now which is good because I guess it thoguht that if I keept staying away there was no futuer with me.. but the annoying thing is if she would have said look I don't like him anymore I want you.. I would have given myself to her no problem I just held back a lot for fear of getting hurt.. and I have stayed away, because personally them 2 are a couple and I don't want to be the other guy.. but I can't be friends with it. Because I have feelings for her the only way I know how to deal with this.. is to give it space its hard as we work in the same office.. and we see each other every day.. the funny thing is. I know if I start spending time with it. She will be all over me again with or without her man.. and the same with me and I don't want to get into that..

And now she is angry with me that I'm not talking with her or helping her out in the office
And the main reason why I can't be with her is because I don't trust her... if she did that to him she will do it to me.. and I'm not that silly to but myself in that place. I mean OK the place I'm at now is pretty strange but I could have made it a lot worse..

Anyway guys I know I'm doing the right thing. In my heart don't know why I'm wirtting this down :) just would like your guys views on this
Thank you.

Well I'm not a guy but I say, trust your instincts.

Sounds like you are protecting yourself, good and you are correct that what she has done in the past she can do to you tomorrow