Ask Me Help Desk - Can I get sole custody of my son?

My sons father is abusive he pops pills! He tried to throw urine on my son when he was only 1month old. He denies my son told he was going to shoot my son . My sons father is very suicidal .he is not mentally stabled at all... I feel he is a threat to my son life. He also sales drugs...

We see stories like this all the time. The problem here is you seem not to have cared about these things when you had sex with him. The court will look at that if you try to deny him custody.

Is he asking for custody? If not, then why open a can of worms by going to sole custody? Are you also looking for child support?

See if you can get an emergency court order to keep him away from your child. Then try to convince the child services/judge via your lawyer, that the sperm donor is not right in his head, and see if you can force him to be examined.

If he is found to have mental problems then you should be able to get full custody and maybe if he is granted visitation insist it he never left alone with the child. That depends on the results and recommendation of the examiner, I assume.

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Originally Posted by Cornflower

See if you can get an emergency court order to keep him away from your child. Then try to convince the child services/judge via your lawyer, that the sperm donor is not right in his head, and see if you can force him to be examined.

If he is found to have mental problems then you should be able to get full custody and maybe if he is granted visitation insist it he never left alone with the child. That depends on the results and recommendation of the the examiner, I assume.

First, a sperm donor is someone who provides sperm to infertile couples so they can have a child. The OP chose to have sex with this man, so lets tell it like it is.

Second, We don't know if this man has tried to see the child. The OP said he is denying him. So why should she go for an order, especially an emergency one, to keep him from the child unless he's actually trying to see the child. Time enough for a court order if he asks to see the child.

As for his mental stability, he was stable enough to have sex with. All of sudden he is unstable?

I'm not saying the OP won't get full custody if she tries for it. I'm saying we don't know enough at this point.

You are new here so you may not be aware that we take pride in the quality and accuracy of the advice we give. Your advice is lacking on several points as I've pointed out. We welcome contributors, but they need to maintain the standards of this site.