My boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 yrs, he has no sexual desire. We have talked about it several times.first reason was ? Second time we talked about it he thought I needed to trim down,I since then lost 25lbs and hadn't really changed anything.the last time recently we had the conversation he said he needs to prepare himself mentally.What could that mean?

If he is asking you to trim down, doesn't sound like he loves you for you. My advice... Dump him and move on, if he care about your weight more than you do he's shallow and pathetic. But maybe he has some deeper reason for not being intimate with you, try having a heart to heart? (I know it's hard to do that with guys though) good luck!

I totally agree, if he told u to trim down for him to be sexually attracted to u tell him u don't need him. If he loved you it wouldn't matter how what size you are. If u decide u want to stay and work on things.. I would suggest not talking about sex at all.. When you want it, take it. He is yours. ;-) put on something sexy and be confident with who you are and what u

[QUOTE=Bbratzmama;3215473]I totally agree, if he told u to trim down for him to be sexually attracted to u tell him u don't need him. If he loved you it wouldn't matter how what size you are. If u decide u want to stay and work on things.. I would suggest not talking about sex at all.. When you want it, take it. He is yours. ;-) put on something sexy and be confident with who you are and what u want out of the relationship. Maybe he feels like he can't live up to your expectations. So you do the work. Seduce him. Take what's yours...