My ex-husband doesn't care about our 2 boys. At least once a month he doesn't take his visitation. Whenever he has a girlfriend he chooses her over our boys. He has recently got back together with his ex-girlfriend. She has 5 children herself and they are never with her and she has a son that is special needs. He is completely hateful and talks very nasty to me. He also doesn't ask how they are doing and he never attends our youngest son's IEP meetings and he has never came to a parent/teacher conference for either one of our boys. He doesn't want to help with anything above his monthly child support payment. I am just looking out for the best well-being of our boys. They have already been through this situation with my ex-husband 2 times before this time. This not fair to our boys!

What do you hope to gain by having him sign over his parental rights? At any rate in the vast majority of cases you cannot make him sign away his rights. For that matter he couldn't apply to have his rights removed.

He has a legal obligation to provide financial support. If he does not the Court will force him to pay support. No one can force him to be a good father. That's beyond the Court's powers.

I don't know how his girlfriend's children and the fact that they are "never with her" impacts your children. I don't know how her special needs child impacts the situation.

It may or may not be fair to your boys but legally your "ex" cannot be forced to visit with them or, for that matter, even love them.

If your children are in danger because of your "ex" and his girlfriend, then go to Court, PROVE your allegations and attempt to have visitation suspended.

Otherwise - and I know it's hard to hear, I have the same situation in my family - you CANNOT force someone to be a good father.

Before posting on a site like this, it makes sense to browse around and look at some of the other posts. Very often you will find your question answered. For example, you might have found this sticky:
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/family...st-116098.html

Which basically answers your question that no you cannot get him to sign over his rights.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

What do you hope to gain by having him sign over his parental rights? At any rate in the vast majority of cases you cannot make him sign away his rights. For that matter he couldn't apply to have his rights removed.

He has a legal obligation to provide financial support. If he does not the Court will force him to pay support. No one can force him to be a good father. That's beyond the Court's powers.

I don't know how his girlfriend's children and the fact that they are "never with her" impacts your children. I don't know how her special needs child impacts the situation.

It may or may not be fair to your boys but legally your "ex" cannot be forced to visit with them or, for that matter, even love them.

If your children are in danger because of your "ex" and his girlfriend, then go to Court, PROVE your allegations and attempt to have visitation suspended.

Otherwise - and I know it's hard to hear, I have the same situation in my family - you CANNOT force someone to be a good father.

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Thank you Judy. Its not hard to hear that I can not force someone to be a good father. I know that he has the right to see our children and that he also has a financial responsibility to help raise our children. I know that people can change, but I don't know if he will. I am just looking out for what's best for our children. So I'm going to leave it up to him when he wants to take his visitation and keep record of things. I'm sorry that you have the same situation in your family also. Thank you once again.