My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for a year now, which 11 months were long distance. I would come as often as every month to visit him. When HE 1st made this official and I say him because he told me " when I return home he didnt want me to see anyone else and he didnt want anyone either, and if were going to be together I had to be in completely or none at all". I agreed. Throughout this year he has showered me with romantic dates, jewelry, gifts etc. He begun to help a friend by giving him a place to stay since he didn't have anywhere else to go, and our relationship went downhill from there. When I went to visit for his birthday weekend, we were arguing like never before over the dumbest things. I became so angry the last night of my stay I decided to stay at a hotel, which I left the hotel to my flight home. He didn't talk to me for a month. When he decided to come back around, he asked me for space. What?? Space?? Ok so, since then I've relocated near him. But just now agreed to give him space. I don't call, I may text every other day. But he still gives me money, takes me out, and of course sex. Is this space or does he wants this with me just not the "TITLE"?

This is the OP, I have broken it off with him after a week of trying this SPACE BS out. I feel like if he wants me he will come to me when HE does, I don't want to put myself on hold for anyone other than my husband, and I'm not married. Did I do the right thing? Help me out

Wow you are smart to not take his demotion from committed to friends with benefits crap! I agree 100%.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Wow you are smart to not take his demotion from commited to friends with benefits crap! I agree 100%.

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Thank-you for responding, I'm just so confused. I still love him deeply, I've never felt like this before. But it hurts more because I don't know if I did anything wrong for thus to happen or if he just had a change of heart. He was my motivation, he told me things that children need to hear from there parents like, he believed in me. I've came from a pretty jacked up family. Maybe that's why I'm still stuck, trying to move on.

No you are stuck still because the hurt is still fresh, and the healing takes time to begin. Stopping all contact is the best medicine, but will take time to work.

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