I am leaving for Army bootcamp this upcoming 9th of July. My parents aren't divorced but looks like they will soon. Well my story is long but my mom hasn't never been employed she doesn't have a h.s diploma & 2 years ago she tried committing suicide. My dad is a great man self employed all his life he's always been there for his kids but he feels he's not the one to have custody since my sister needs a mother figure more than father according to him. I want to file for her custody as soon as I get stationed. What are my chances of actually getting her custody. Since I am still very young?

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Originally Posted by jenn lopez 24

... What are my chances of actually getting her custody. [?] ...

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Very slight, in my opinion.

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Originally Posted by jenn lopez 24

... Since I am still very young?

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That.

And the fact that you are scheduled to be in the army. How would you look after her then?

And since even your father seems to disagree with your idea of who your sister needs most.

And other reasons too, I expect.

Parents are preferred over other relatives when it comes to deciding custody.

Probably very slim - unfortunately. When you finish bootcamp how long will you be stationed in one place?

(Wish there were more people like you.)

In order to get custody you have to provide for your own place to live, be self supporting, be stable. It sounds like you are.

On another point - thank you for defending the rest of us. Enlisting right now must be a difficult decision.

Would your parents consent to your sister living with you?

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My dad is very well capable of getting her custody if he wanted and he would support my decision of keeping her if I want. He knows my mother is a very unstable person I just don't want to involve him legally. & I will be stationed in one place for 4 years. Thank-you it has been a difficult decision but it's the right one for me.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

My dad is very well capable of getting her custody if he wanted and he would support my decision of keeping her if I want. He knows my mother is a very unstable person I just don't want to involve him legally. & I will be stationed in one place for 4 years. Thank-you it has been a difficult decision but its the right one for me.

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More importantly, it sounds like it might be the best decision for your sister. If your parents are willing to give you guardianship, that would be the way to go. The fact that you will be Active Military is going to be in your favor. You would have to be in a stable place - no taking custody and then being sent overseas.

If your father can get custody he can then give you guardianship although no one can say 100% without know what State (and you don't need to post that now) so you can get medical care for her, enroll her in school.

I try not to get involved oin the personal issues on the boards. For whatever reason your thread has really touched me - I truly don't know why. Maybe because it's a sister, concerned about a sister? I don't know - and emotion has no part on the law boards. I'm the first person to say so.

Go to basic, get stationed, see if you can get legal guardianship.

I will bet you are your sister's role model. Good for both of you!

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Thank-you I really hope I can work something out and get her custody as soon as stationed. I want nothing but the best for my sister and as soon as I see divorce papers come into this I will start talking with my dad & a lawyer thank-you for your comments and help

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

Thank-you I really hope I can work something out and get her custody as soon as stationed. I want nothing but the best for my sister and as soon as I see divorce papers come into this I will start talking with my dad & a lawyer thank-you for your comments and help

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Please keep me posted.