I broke up with my girlfriend nearly 2 months ago, I love her so much, I'm thinking about her every day, every minute, but she seems cold, after the breakup she started texting me or writing to me on social network site, sometimes asking me if I have met new girl, while it's hard for me to ask her if she found new man because its hurts me if her answer will be yes.. and every time I'm asking her that maybe we can solve our problems and back, she is telling me that we broke up but at the same time she still talking to me, for example last night we talked online she said in general I don't like to meet with my ex while she's keeping talk to me in the internet and sometimes texting me.. I'm really confused!

She misses you, if she didn't she wouldn't ask if you had a new girl, she wouldn't talk to you if she didn't. She deffinatly misses you and if you really want to be with her still you should tell her how you feel, tell her that you miss her and that you still have feelings for her, girls want to know that their still cared for after a break up.. tell her, you never know what might happen :)

You are in the friend zone, and you will be confused as long as you keep talking to her, and hoping she gives you another chance. You will also suffer if you think staying in contact with her as a false friend (since you have an agenda for being a friend), instead of making your own healing the top priority.

Keeping in contact with her will hurt, and confuse you until you stop the contact! May as well because she ain't getting back with you as a romantic partner, and will keep you as a friend until she has better things to do.

Thanks all for your opinions , I just talked to her yesterday , I told her that I can change and do what ever it takes to get back together , but she told me that she is somehow missing the old days but she can't back , she said that we don't have future together and she prefer if we will be just friends , that we can talk from time to time , then told me to forget about her and there are a lot of good girls that I can find ,I was really surprised of what she was saying
I told her that I just need you and I don't want to be with other girl , then again she said "i doono what to say , dont think about me and try to forget " also she said and I hope you are not hating me after all this talk , and finally I told her " i can't hate u , i loved u and will never hate u ".
Since our break up I was trying to forget about her but I couldn't and after this conversation I felt that I opened this wound again and now I'm having the same pain that I had when we broke up 2 months ago.. I really don't know what to do , I feel lost , I can't even start a new relationships because I feel that I gave everything to this girl , I feel that I'm broken and desperate.

The good news is you shot your wad in a last ditch attempt and she shut you down. Now you know its completely over and no hope, so instead of worrying about replacing this relationship with another, just go back to what you were doing before and start the healing process all over again, and start NC fresh.

You tried it the hard way, now try it an even harder, better way. Mourn your loss for a week or so, and start rebuilding a life that you enjoy, without her I it. As you see you cannot control her feelings, but its time to learn how to control YOURS!!

You cannot help but feel hurt, but you can control what you do about it.

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