My girlfriend keeps talking to her ex. I need advice please
So, I've officially been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a little over 2 weeks now. Before I asked her to be my girlfriend, we had talked and been seeing each other for about 3-4 months. Now, when I met her she was still dating her ex boyfriend, but a week after they broke up. This is when we started actually talking and started building feelings for each other.
About 2 months since we'd been talking I found out that when she went back home (we go to the same college) she had seen her ex-boyfriend and had sex with him. This was after they had broken up and when we were talking! I found this out by reading her text message.. I'm not the jealous type or anything, but when she would stay over late at night he would always call her and text her. So, when she had left the room I check her phone and found out about this.
I confronted her about this and she said that she had been "manipulated". She uses that word a lot when talking about her ex-boyfriend. Anyway, she said it wouldn't happen again. About a month after that incident, I saw the he still called and texted her from time to time because her phone would go off and I noticed it was him. I didn't get upset or anything. At one point she had even stopped talking to him because she knew I didn't like it. But a little later she asked me if she could message him to tell him something about a game (draw something). I said "sure" because again, I am not the jealous type and if it was just talking over a game then I would be okay with it.
Eventually, I asked her to be my girlfriend. I told her that I did not want to share her and I thought that when we would finally be in a relationship, she would stop talking to him.. But that doesn't seem to be the case. After I asked her out, I went through her phone and saw that they were still talking and she had said that her and her ex-boyfriend were "bff" (best friends or something like that). This kind of annoyed me but I didn't address it.
A couple of days ago I met up with her and talked to her about it. I told her that I did not appreciate that she was talking to her ex. She didn't say much but she said she was sorry. A day or two after that, her ex-boyfriend kept calling her while we were on the phone. He called like 10 times so I asked her if she wanted to talk to him.. She said yes and that she would call me back. This kind of blew my mind. And I was thinking maybe she would tell him to stop calling and tell me once she called me back, but she didn't and all she said was, "hi. goodnight." I said whatever and hung up. She called me back, I told her once again that I really did not appreciate that she talked to him. I told her that it is inconsiderate and disrespectful towards me. I gave her an ultimatum. Her response had me dumbfounded. She said that she would tell him to stop talking to her. A better response would have been, "I will stop talking to him." SHE LET'S THE GUY TALK TO HIM. I don't understand.
Another thing that confuses me is that she told me from the beginning that she didn't like him and that she likes me. WHY is she not taking anything I say into consideration??
So after the ultimatum, I gave her a second chance and felt better about it. But last night, she texted me goodnight so I called her. Her exboyfriend called her while we were on the phone!! I asked her if they had talked earlier in the day and she told me they did! What! So I got mad and told her I'm going to bed. I haven't talked to her since then. She texted me realizing that I'm mad and she realizes what she is doing is wrong and hurting my feelings. She also said that she is "trying" to stop talking to him.
What do I do?
