Why do my friends always wind up using me!
I've been doing a lot of soul searching lately and I've come to a realization that all the friends I've ever had besides one or two wind up using me. It doesn't always start that way but it ends like that.
A good example would be a girl I met at my old job... I'll call her Jamie. Jamie and I hung out frequently and had a lot in common. We had fun together then when I quit, we started hanging out little less which I expected but the times I saw her became less and less. Finally it got to the point where she wouldn't have a ride home form work so she'd ask me to pick her up to "hang out" and within an hour there was some urgent reason she had to go home (I believed her the first few time but eventually I realized she didn't really want to hang out she just wanted a ride).
Now I only hear from her when her boy friends and her are fighting or if she wants something. She just turned 21 and I told her I'd be the sober driver... she ignored me and never answered. Then the next day she sent me a text saying if I wanted to give her a present I could give her 20 bucks (she wanted a bag of weed to help her hangover from the party I wasn't invited to).
She isn't the only friend this has happened with and I don't get it. We start as GREAT friends then slowly they become users. I just don't understand why or if it may be something I'm doing wrong. Help