I was going out with this girl for about one year and half, I took her to my senior prom and she went to my graduation. After some time I noticed that we were losing our connection and she eventually left me after her friends told her to leave me. I felt robbed and hurt, I wanted nothing more than to get her back, but she wanted nothing to do with me, she blocked me on Facebook and changed her number thinking I would constantly call her and harass her, but this isn't true.
All I want now is to talk to her, I miss her so much and I want some closure because she broke up with me over the phone
I have been trying to see other people but I'm finding it very hard
I need some advice

"she wanted nothing to do with me, she blocked me on facebook and changed her number"

That's all you need to know.

Did you get the message?

She wants you to leave her alone. Do it.

You can't be in a relationship with someone who wants nothing to do with you. Let go of that idea. What you can do is immerse yourself in an activity, take a class, or make some extra time for your friends so that you at least have positive distractions while you are healing. Stop trying to get in contact with her, and ignore her is she ever tries to get in contact with you.

You will get closure whenever you get over her. It seems like closure is something else, but is not. Give it time, you will eventually find someone else, there is no need to talk to your ex. Go out, meet other people, socialize, eventually you will find someone else, someone BETTER. We always do, it is hard to get over someone, but when you do, you will feel silly about how you are feeling today. Time heals, unfortunately that is the ONLY way to heal.

Accept what has happened, and let that be your closure, then you can leave her alone, and move on. Break ups suck, no matter what the reason is.

It seems some approached my question gingerly, others, not so much but I appreciate all the answers.
I've been trying to date this one girl for a week now and I'm finding it hard, we were friends when I was with my ex and I only really see her as a friend.

Then why are you trying to date a friend, when you have not recovered from you last relationship? You can't just replace what you have lost. That's not a good idea.

That's too much like rebounding, and seldom works well for any one. Its also unfair to your friend, and who even wants to date some one who is fresh from being dumped?

Read the stickies here, and build a life that you are happy with while you heal, and be ready for a healthy relationship.

Just keep things loose. Without expectations or stress.

Friends are great, exs not so great.

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Just keep things loose. Without expectations or stress.

Friends are great, exs not so great

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I get it man, just keep it easy?

Have fun with family, and friends and the things you enjoy doing. A happy healthy person, attracts other happy healthy people. You don't have to force anything.

Yup. Exactly.
If you get it, then do it.

Just like teaching guitar.
Infinite. Possibilities.

She also has some things of mine I kind of want back
A 45 dollar zippo lighter
A 60 dollar stuffed white tiger

I guess I got to say good bye to them, huh?

Is there any way I could get those back.

I, just me, would say good bye to them, when I gave them to her. Why did you not ask for them when you broke up? Why start contact with her over a hundred bucks? I would walk away. Why open a can of worms?

I agree.
Stop looking for ways to make contact.
If a lighter is so important, then get some matches.

Things are things.
Don't worry about that stuff.

Just you're next plan.
Whatcha going to do...

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Just you're next plan.
Whatcha going to do...

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I figured I'd forget about it