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  • Oct 6, 2011, 12:30 PM
    pwray
    My fiancé Left Me!
    My fiancé and I were together for 6 years, and engaged for 3 months. In my mind we were living in paradise. She was happy (appeared to be), we were wedding planning, talking about having kids in a few years. She was my best friend, my everythng.

    A few weeks ago she ended our relationship. She had started a new job and started spending more and more time there. She said that when she was there she felt truly happy and excited, and that's what she basically would rather spend time there. (She's a teacher). She told me that she was only 70% committed to our relationship now and that she didn't feel comfortable getting married if she wasn't 100%. She doesn't feel that there is any hope and getting things back to where they were, nor does she want to right now.

    About 3 weeks before the break-up she was calling me and sending me texts that said: "I just love you so much" and "I miss you every minute I'm not with you." She has since told me that she wasn't lying when she said those things and that she meant every word. I just don't understand how she could have fallen out of love that fast.

    At this point I'm trying to keep moving forward. The break-up was only 2 weeks ago. I think about her every second of the day, and when I wake-up in the morning I feel like I'm re-living a nightmare. I miss her, I miss my best friend. I haven't been calling, texting, e-mailing or anything, and I haven't heard from her. I can't help but wonder (and wish) if she's thinking about me or if she's having second thoughts.

    What do I do? Do you think she will come back?
  • Oct 6, 2011, 01:47 PM
    gigi36
    I am so sorry this happened to you. I have no idea if she will come back but if you contact her it will drive her away further. Let her come to you. I know it is incredibly hard, been there, but it is the best chance of them coming back... let them go.
  • Oct 6, 2011, 03:03 PM
    vanheart
    Im sorry to hear that.

    Only one thing to do. Go NC, never talk to her again.

    "I haven't been calling, texting, e-mailing or anything"
    Good for you. Much respect from me here on that.

    Its going to take a lot time & effort on your part to get over this.

    All I can say is do everything for yourself at this time.
    Get busy.

    My ex did the same thing. Professed her love until the last week.
    Words are words. Just meant to make her feel better. Not you.


  • Oct 6, 2011, 06:52 PM
    talaniman
    I to think you have chosen a good path through this hurtful situation. Read the stickies here, and consider yourself among friends that understand what you are going through, and that break ups SUCK!

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