My ex girlfriend still loves me but doesn't want a relationship right now
Hey guys, I started going out with my ex feb 2007... we broke up in dec 2009 because I kissed another girl and felt so guilty I told her (biggest mistake of my life). She told me she didn't want to break up but thought it was best to have a break for a while. Meanwhile we still talked most days but then we drifted further and further apart as the days went by. Months later she dates another guy and on Facebook it said she was in a relationship with him. She didn't give me the respect by telling me herself and that's how I found out. I called her and asked her and she told me. So I thought I would do the right thing and back off and let her live her life. But by then I was distraught and heartbroken.
So made very little contact with her and wanted to move on. I started seeing girls here and there but nobody even compared. Every time I would talk to her she would always remind me that she still loves me... months down the track she then broke up with her boyfriend because he was being unfaithful to her. We then caught up and started talking again for about 4 months (not rushing into anything). At the end of last year after weeks of spending time together, there was talk about us getting back together. She then met a guy over new years whilst I was in another state on a holiday.
She then made it clear to me that she couldn't be in a relationship at the time because she has trust issues. And its now August and she is still seeing this other guy. But the thing is she told me she has never been to his house, never been introduced to his parents, he hasn't wanted to make them official. And it upsets me a lot that she would settle for this guy. And here I am, willing to give her the world and true happiness. But I just cannot work her out. Its been a very long and bumpy road. I believe in fate and if its meant to be it will be but we've been broken up for 20 months and we still have that connection and that love we had since the beginning and still talk to her most days.. 3 months ago I had friends over for my birthday and I find her in my bathroom with her best friend crying. She told me the next day it was because she missed me, my friends and isn't sure what to do with us.
Last night I went to a friends birthday and she was also there. We were dancing, laughing and just having fun. And she called me tonight and one of the things she said was "i agree with everybody who tells me to get back together with u, if we were to get back together we would be amazingly happy, u treat me like no other guy and i love u with all my heart. but only time will tell and im not ready for a commitment". After hearing that I felt like screaming. We are still really close after everything we have been through.. n I'm so deeply in love with her and time has told me that she's the one...
So I'm here, pleading for some advice or some guidance as to what I should do. Thank you! :)
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Thanks for your advice mate, I've tried to cut all contact with her but its very hard... especially when we both go out to the same sort of pubs and nightclubs. But yeah we are still really close friends so how do I do it without rudely deleting her out of my life? Because I just want to be happy