Ok so then what do I do when I run into him like at the store or something it is going to be really hard to just ignore him especially if he is going to my church. Anyway why does it hurt so much. I guess he was my first love. I love him a lot. People expect me to just get over it in a day but that's not going to happen. What can I do to make it easier me for me to get over him. It also hurts when my mom talks about him which that is about to change when I move out.

Yes, it is hard to get over someone but you've got to do it nevertheless. Politely ask your mom not to talk about him in your presence. Also you need to have no contact with him whatsoever. No calls, no IM's, no e-mails, nothing. I wouldn't worry about running into him at the store or anything like that, after all, how likely is that to happen? As for church, consider attending a different church. If that's not possible then just sit away from him and don't socialize with him.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by s_cianci

Yes, it is hard to get over someone but you've got to do it nevertheless. Politely ask your mom not to talk about him in your presence. Also you need to have no contact with him whatsoever. No calls, no IM's, no e-mails, nothing. I wouldn't worry about running into him at the store or anything like that, after all, how likely is that to happen? As for church, consider attending a different church. If that's not possible then just sit away from him and don't socialize with him.

---

Well I am not attending another church just because he goes but OK thank you I guess

The only way to make it easy when bumping into him is for you both to have some closure. Be grown ups, have a chat, say goodbye properly and wish each other good luck. Then if you do bump into each other at the very least you can acknowledge each other in a friendly manner by nodding.

Relationships don't end they just change - you can decide to be friends or you can decide to be enemies. But you can't make him disappear like he was never there in your life.

As time goes by it will bother you a lot less as the hurt is still fresh to you, so be polite and brief and it will be better as you get on with your own life. Sometimes we cannot avoid uncomfortable situations but we can develop skills in handling them in a positive way. Takes time though.