Need to talk to someone about relationship?
My girlfriend has depression and seasonal depression. We are both high school seniors and going to college. Both of us are very academic, yet she feels as if she needs to go to Arizona for her health. I don't know what to do. We've been dating for 2+ years and talk hours everyday. Both my family and I really don't want me to go to a college in Arizona. I don't know if I can keep her happy in North Carolina (where I would like to go) and I've tried everything that I can. My parents preach reason to me and hints... that as with so many people I need to establish myself and get a good education and job before I should think about marriage or any strong commitment. And being in a commitment too early may limit me because I may only go somewhere just as long as there is space for both of us--therefore, we may cut corners for each other. I understand that, but it's also so often as well that my girlfriend relies on me so much. I don't want to leave her behind. I don't know what she would do without me. I don't want her to be depressed and I just want to find some solution. I seem to lose either way.
She is taking medication and it has been a tedious progress. Sometimes I think it is getting better and then she gets worse again. I'm scared that I also just love her as a friend and am too afraid to break up with her for not knowing how she will do without me. I am just so confused. It's also not that we don't know each other that well, because I've spent hours every single day talking to her or spending time with her besides a few days when I've been away on a family vacation. School is very difficult and this matter is very stressful and time consuming, but I cannot stop trying to comfort her. It sometimes is equally as stressful when she is amazingly well one day and absolutely amazing and the other she is at the bottom of the depths.. how long and how do I know when she is happy? This is my first relationship. I'm confused and starting to feel cornered myself.