Im 19 tomorrow and she is 17 and a half. She broke up with me a week ago after I told her that I didn't feel she loved me. Because I wasn't getting that reassurance and she always seemed unexcited and not happy to see me. We were together for 2 years and 109 days. Engaged for a year and a half of it. We have known each-other for almost four years.

This girl is with out a doubt the love of my life. I know I'm young but I know that she's the one. I've cried every night because I've lost the girl I love. She said she wanted to be friends that she still loved me and we would be together again some day. She just wanted to have fun. Said it was a stage and didn't know what she wanted.

Please help me when her back. I'm crying rite now even. I haven't talked to her because its said that's my best bet to get her back, I've prayed to god every night to help me and guide me so I can win her back. I've said ill deal with any amount of pain and heart ache. Nothing compares to this.

Someone please help me. Tell me the steps or tricks or something to play my cards right. Make her miss me and want me back. I only feel happy when I have her. She my life. Don't know what to do!

You need to tell her how much she means to you!
Tell her that you only asked because you wanted to make sure that she loves you just as much as you love her explain you can't see the rest of your Life without her

I've done that I've alwayd done that... I think she's tired of me. I've gone above and beyond to show my love and what she means to me. Ive done things most people would never do.

Aww :( well I don't know then sorry

Leaving her alone is the correct thing to do. Not to get her back, but to give you the time to get through the emotional upheaval, the fear and the pain, that this relationship break up has caused you.

I know it hurts, and we have all been through the same hurt. Some of us a few times. Break ups hurt every time, and since this is your first , it hurts worse than anything you have ever been through. Of course all you can think of is getting her back because for a very long time she WAS THE CENTER OF YOUR WHOLE LIFE. You were hers but that's all changed and she just wants to enjoy the rest of her high school years and explore her world.

You have gone from boy to man, and have to put your life together without her, and see what future you can build for yourself. Crying over your loss is okay, and understandable, but eventually you will have to get it together just in case she wants to take a second look, or better yet someone else wants a first look.

Life is rough, but you will be stronger if you rebuild your life, and find your happiness without her. Like we all learn to do. Yeah, life was simple when you were a kid, but you no longer have that as a luxury, or an excuse not to stand alone, on your own, without depending on a female to prop you up, and make you feel good about yourself, and your life.

Read the stickies, and learn the best way to heal, and be better for the experience.

Give her space,you're both younge maybe she doesn't really know what she wants,look I've been where you are right now,the best thing for you to do is move on.I know you hate seeing those words but the sooner you come to terms that you don't have to live everyday and every minute thinking about her the pain will go away.keep her in your heart and thoughts keep moving forward with your life,go out with friends the last thing you want to do is chase her and beg for her to come back.The only tips I or actually any of us could give you is No Contact,let her see that your doing fine without her,you ever hear the saying you don't know what you got till it's gone? Well that's what you need to do,grow as a person,grow for yourself and don't dwell on this.I'm not going to give you high hopes but I can tell you this the sooner you take the first few steps in getting over the break up the better you will be trust me on this.it hurts I know.All break ups hurt,maybe she will come back but there's always a chance she won't and you can't hold onto that hope you need to keep busy and get your life back on track.

Thank you its very helpful. She says she wants to be friends. I try to be her friend but she won't talk to me. I tried the no contact thing and she got mad at me I don't know what to do. Being with her again as what I want most but at this point id be happy to just have her in my life. I'm going to do the no contact thing but theirs a problem. I'm still really close to her family and on top of it. I don't have any friends so I enjoy seeing all of them that much more.

Let her be mad then since you can't please her either way, and have nothing to do with her. Unfortunately, that means breaking with her family, and having new friends and activities that you enjoy, so you can move beyond this drama.

Having her in your life now is not a good thing-time to find out how you can change your life and move forward-making friends and finding out what you would like to do with your life.

Breakups hurt-but we get through them by being active and taking care of ourselves.