My daughter is distancing herself
My 28 year old daughter recently moved to another country and has now settled with a boyfriend and baby on the way. We were very close but I found her to be resentful of me and we would sometimes fight when she accused me of not being a good enough mother. Her father was violent and used to beat me up whilst I was pregnant , when I was overdue with her and whilst breasfeeding her and till the age she was two after which we split. He continued to see her and I would try my best to get him to see her despite his violence. By the age she was 7 he just didn't bother with her anymore. But they started to see each other when she was thirteen. When she was fourteen he pinned her to the ground and beat her face black and blue. I never knew what was the right thing to do I was told by professionals it was better for her to see her dad, but after the beating he disappeared out of her lfe for three years. Since they started to see each other when she was 17 , she has been more and more resentful of me and accused me of not letting her see her father , which is so untrue. She hardly talks to me at all now and when we do see each other she is angry at me over any small thing and criticises me. She is all I have in the world and feel utterly lost and heart broken. If I tell her the truth about her father it will hurt her even more so I feel I must suffer in silence.
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It was rural Ireland 14 years ago, it wasn't a place where victims could speak up , believe me .