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  • Feb 5, 2011, 12:01 PM
    tears123
    Should I stay in a hurting relationship?
    I am in a relationship from last year. 1st it was a comfortable relationship,usually he cared, and he was sincere with me. He told me many times that he want to marry me, but now my relation totally turn into a hell, he takes interest into other girls as all time try to flirt with other girls,when I noticed, I checked stupid chatting and as I discuss with him, he become abusive and beat me. Now he is totally changed.he says that there are no emotions,no love.and he is not happy with me.. I tried many times for break up but I couldn't.. I don't knew what to do.. so should I stay this relation?
  • Feb 5, 2011, 12:09 PM
    cllockhart
    Never let a guy beat you! That is a big no no in all relationships. You should have been out the door the moment he raised a hand to you. YES YOU SHOULD BREAK UP WITH HIM. I know you think it is hard but really is it harder to break up with an abusive boyfriend or to stay in the situation where you never know when he is going to get ticked off and hit you again. Abusive men have a way of sweet talking their way back into a woman's heart by saying it will never happen again and it almost always does end up happening again.

    Also if he has no emotions for you and no love and is not happy why are you wasting your time with him anyway?
  • Feb 5, 2011, 12:18 PM
    liongal
    How old are you?

    For the simple fact that you came to seek advice about your b/f, you already know what the answer is...

    Is it right that any one beats you, let alone someone that claims to love you?

    Is it normal that he informs you that there is no love or anything with you?

    I will say this once... Kick his sorry *** to the curb side and thank God you got away! Dust yourself down and remember there is a man out there that will treat you like a Queen, but first you have to know you are a queen worthy of a good man!!

    Good Luck.
  • Feb 5, 2011, 12:29 PM
    acciosnivellus
    Noooo you do not stay in this "relationship". Break up with him, gain yourself worth back, and enjoy your life with a whole lot less stress. You're worth more than this and you know it! You've already stepped back and observed what's happening in this relationship from a bird's eye view, now the next step is realizing your own worth and what you deserve. Leave this loser! Good luck to you.
  • Feb 5, 2011, 01:59 PM
    DoulaLC

    What would you tell your best friend or sister if she came to you and told you that her boyfriend doesn't love her, has no feelings for her, has hit her, is not happy with her, and flirts with other girls? Wouldn't you tell her to end it and never look back?

    You need to end it today... don't wait. He is not a man, he is not worth your heartache. Get help from family and friends.
  • Feb 5, 2011, 09:28 PM
    talaniman

    No you should not stay and for the life of me I can't figure out why you would want to.
  • Feb 7, 2011, 09:48 AM
    tears123
    I want to say thanks all of you.. but I know this relation is so hurting but I don't know how ll I break up whenever I tried for break up it seems very difficult..
  • Feb 7, 2011, 12:49 PM
    Just Looking

    Is it difficult because he threatens you when you attempt to break up or is it difficult because you don't know how to be on your own? You didn't answer how old you are. Do you live with him?

    I would suggest that you develop a plan. Once you know how you are going to do it, it will become easier. If you live with him, do you have a place to go? Can you go to your parents' home or a friend's home?

    If you are afraid that he will harm you, leave first, and then tell him by phone or e-mail. If you feel you have to talk in person, do it in a public place. If you are afraid, don't tell him when you are alone together, thereby giving him the chance to beat you again.

    To give you strength, plan what you will do in your life once you have ended this relationship. Do you work or go to school? Are you pursuing your interests? Have you maintained your relationships with family and friends? I can tell you that you will get a lot of strength once you have made this move, especially if you have relationships still with family and friends, and if you keep posting on this site. We will support you emotionally and we do care.

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