This guy broke up with me almost a year ago now. The way he did it was horrible, he started treating me like **** and cussed me out a lot and just became ajerk off so I ignored him for months. But I was still hurting, a lot. I went majoraly depressed and shut down for months. He got into more relationships that did end not long after they started. But it sucked for me to see him with someone else. At the end of summer once my time limit of having his number blocked from my phone was up he came in contact with me and apologized for everything and blah blah blah. Then he just wanted to act like nothing happened so I told him fresh start. After a day of talking to him I started to ignore him because I can't just talk to him like best friends, which he was telling people we were now just because we talked once. So I ignored him again and then we came in contact once again months latter, this time I started it. I had to tell him how I felt. And we talked again. He really wants us to be on good terms and start fresh as friends. But I got sick of seeing him talk about other girls so I am ignoring him once again and have blocked forms of communications. We are both freshman in college and now he is dating a girl in high school. He has lost people that liked him because he's turned into a jerk. He's been getting better I suppose. But it still hurts. I have told him everything I have had to say and trying to take this year as my resolution year of moving forward. I'll always love him I've accepted that. I just want to be okay without him. Any tips on what I should do or what you think is going on in his head or maybe what you think is really going on? Please and thank you.

Stop being in contact with him.

How do you expect to move on when you obviously can't manage "being friends"?

If it hurts you shouldn't be in contact with him.

I'm not in concact with him anymore. I have blocked any forms of communication. I do not want to be "just friends" with him nor can I.

For whatever reasons you are dwelling on this situation. You have been hurt, and can't get over how easy it was for him to move on. You aren't the only one having to learn to move on without having satisfaction on how you were treated!!

You know he is a dog, and obviously a lot more woman know this for he is now having to go back to dating high school girls!!

You need to make every effort to get out more with friends, or go do something to keep you occupied so you don't dwell on this. Go workout, or get into a club at your college.

At least you can look back and be thankful you don't have to put up with this loser, I do feel sorry for the unexpecting girls he will try to make his next girlfriend. Take care

I know I'm not the only one that's ever been heartbroken, I never said I was. I do sports and I go out with friends but a lot of the time when I'm out I'm just wishing I could be with him instead. But I've been trying.

Keep doing what your doing then.
No contact and keeping busy.

Try not to play over and over in your head the why's and how comes anymore. It doesn't matter. Not does it matter what's going on in his head.

Who cares? He broke up with you so doesn't deserve another minute of your time even if it is just thinking..

Just be more patient with yourself.

PS... Spending lots of money on cool gadgets does it for me... keeps me busy and the mind off the ex... :p

Well of course I want to know what's going on in his head. I want to know why everything got so messed up and if he's better off without me. Yes I know he doesn't deserve it. It just infair not having the love of your life anymore.

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Originally Posted by marigold165

well of course i want to know whats going on in his head. i want to know why everything got so messed up and if he's better off without me. yes I know he doesn't deserve it. It just infair not having the love of your life anymore.

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What difference will it make?

He left for whatever reason. You keep stewing over this and you WILL NOT move on.

Let it go. I know its hard. But for your own well being you need to try.

It will take time. That's all you can do for you to accept, he is NOT the love of your life. You thought he was, but OBVIOUSLY he is not. So be patient, the feelings for him, and the hurt he caused will be less intense as you start to focus on other things. Absolutely NO CONTACT until that happens, and you have properly healed.

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