Can a bisexual woman ever truly be happy with just a man?
I knew she was bi before I asked her to marry me. I saw photos of her with a recent ex that showed her happier tan I have ever seen. It makes me wonder if I will ever make her that happy. In fact I asked her directly if she could truly be happy with just me. She said yes. She said that she could never live with a woman though she likes men and woman equally. But that I make her happy and that she wants to marry me, see the world, have children etc. So she shunned away most of her bi exes, who she used to keep contact with. But now a month into our engagement, she spent a few extra days visiting "friends" while visiting family (all woman). Her best friend, a lesbian who is an ex spent 4 days in our apartment while I was out of town... I didn't ask if anything went down. She is my fiancée... I have to give her that respect and trust right?
She claims they are just great friends now. She hangs out exclusively with the gay/lez crowd when I am out of town and only when I'm out of town. Frankly she has never agreed to "hang" with me ever. I have suggested dancing or just club hopping and she always says no. But the moment I go out of town... she heads out to the clubs with her friends!! Otherwise she lives the heterosexual lifestyle. Comes home, cleans, cooks, watches movies with me etc. Recently an ex posted on her Facebook page that she would love to still be making love to her. She immediately erased the post but hey...
All the signs point to the obvious... but then the flip side is that she is the perfect fiancée in front of our respective parents. Could she be that cruel? That fake? What could be the gain out of this? Could she be fooling herself? Am I just paranoid and can't trust what she says?
Oh and one other thing, she can't stand more than a few minutes of male penetration. Ya think that isn't frustrating? And she says she never would go down on any woman. Can you say strange!
I wonder if I made the wrong decision in asking her to marry me. Not because I don't love, because I do with all my heart. And I think she loves me too. But maybe she is just in love with the idea of a heterosexual marriage.
I'm confused!
If ALL of my (bi) fiance's friends are lesbians, can I trust that she is faithful?
I mean all of them. And when I am out of town she doesn't just go for coffee or dinner. She hangs out till 6am sometimes. She goes for late night walks. She goes on day trips. Things that couples do. It has become a paranoia now. I have flat out asked if she needs that satisfaction and she guarantees me that I am all she needs. That if it ever changed she would say soemthing. So why can't I sleep when I am out of town? And can you get over this? Is there a way? I know if I continue to inquire she will probably get frustrated and leave the relationship. But something in me says I'm being fooled. That she is covering her true desires in an effort to have it all.
The last time we had a big talk about it she said something interesting. She said no "Man" could ever take her away from me. Then she went on to say, "Who knows what could happen 5,6 or 7 years down the road",. "only God Knows",. "but if I ever felt the need to kiss a woman I would tell you".
I'm in my hotel room now... 6 thousand miles away... I can't sleep.
SOS