How should I tell my parents that I'm gay?? My parents are orthodox and religious... I'm freaked out... what to do?

Yes tell tham mybe one of them first, the one who your closest too, you'll fell so much better whatever the outcome time for it to settle in is needed so be patient first reactions arnt always true feelings its just shock. Go for it. Or write them a leter if you can't do it in person.good luck

Due to posting restrictions on the Adult Sexuality board: How old are you?

I'm 23 years old

Do you have any gay partner who can support you in all odds. If yes tell your parent and if not just find a perfect partner for yourself and then tell your parents.


Edited to remove chat speak.

Orthodox as in Russian Orthodox or Orthodox as Orthodox Jew, not that it really makes a large difference

Are you in a gay relationship ? Do you not believe they would know ? Are you living at home ? Do you live in the same town,

What type of relatoinship do you have with them

Thnks jenny... you are my true friend... :P... ;)

Welll there is this one guy I'm interested in n he's in me too... we might get into a relationship... they would not know until I tell them... they live in different city...

ARRRRGH!!

No chat speak!

We are in an ADULT forum, and adults can type out the extra two letters in "you" and "are" so that they do not look like they are 14!

Further chat speak WILL be deleted.

Out of curiosity, WHY do you want to come out to your parents at this time? That may have a bearing on what our answers would be. Are you out publicly, just not to your parents?

A totally naïve and slightly rhetorical question: Why do you feel the need to tell your parents that you're gay? I'm hetero. As a young man growing up, I never felt the need to tell my parents that I'm attracted to women. It was my business, not theirs. Why should homosexuals treat their parental relationship any differently? I suggest that you follow your heart, be yourself, wait for people to ask you about your interests, and respond honestly. A close friend of mine called it his "walk-in closet," basically meaning that there's no reason to blab about his orientation, but if people were interested he'd be willing to share.

Well... m out to couple of my friends...

Hon, you either tell them straight out or you do not. Make a choice, and then don't beat around the bush about it.

And stop the chatspeak... spell out the ENTIRE words... you sound like a 14 year old when you do that.

If you cannot stop using chat speak, I will close this thread. Period.

This is your last warning.

Why are you so worried about coming out to your parents right now? You're not even completely out yet!

I think you need to figure out how you are comfortable being publicly gay--especially since you are in another city from your parents--before you worry about telling them anything