Well it basically started by my ex girlfriend talking to other guys on the fone we were going out for about a year and 4 months and were very close she practically lived with me that annoyed me but I understand she is very self conscious and she did it for attention but I feel like why wasn't me calling you beautiful enough? Anyway she started talking to one of my friends like quite a lot one week that pissed me off but I didn't say anything so they arranged for a night out on the Friday and she obv asked me to come so we went out had a bit to drink I came back from the toilet and seen them hugging I thought ah well must just be the drink and being friendly but as were walking up to the club I was talking to a friend and looked back and they were holding hands I immediately broke them up and tshe said he was trying to wind me up so I'm like yea but wats your excuse? Anyway I tried phoning her on the Monday and her fone was ingaged so I text her saying I tried to fone you must be busy goodnyt then she foned and she was like what you going in a mood for and I said I'm not in a mood and she said to me that her fone was switched off because it was on charge this turned out to be a lie and she was on the fone to my friend so I said you lied to me and hungup on her she foned back started accusing me of lying to her before and I said when and obv she couldn't give an example anyway couple of days go by and barely and contact she told me she wasn't going to forgive me anytime soon so I was on the fone to her and I was very angry I told her we either fix thing or we don't and she said is this your way of dumping me and out of anger I said yes so we had a few arguments I missed her crazy begged her cryed on the fone turned up to her house and when I did she had already agreed to meet up with 2 guys that day ***? and we started being friendly for about a week went shopping hung out at this point she was talking to countless guys I reckon 5-6 I didn't like being just friends so I told her look I can't move on if we keep talking cause I want to get bak with you and you don't feel the sme when I said this turns out she says she was going to ask me to go out to a club that nyt as friends anyway today I did the worst thing I was doing so well not talking to her moving on got a job started college I noticed on someone's face book she said had a great time last night with a certain someone(loveheart) I got angry text her saying you moved on quick have a nice life she foned we argued we hungup she foned we argued we hung up I said things like how did you ever love me if you don't want to get bak and I heard a wee rumour she may have kissed a guy when we were going out so I mentioned that as well as the day went on I realised I was wrong to get involved she guilt tripped me saying she was nearly in hospital because of me(because she wasn't eating much) I sent a text saying sorry I shouldn't get involved your single now but she didn't text bak I couldn't get her out my head so I text her saying either we give this another try or we both get put out our miseries yes or no no maybes she text back saying no I'm lost there's no way back now I feel like its all my fault what is the best way to get over this pain?

Best way to get over the pain is to move on. Meet other girls at the club and live it up. It's your life there is no point in living in the past with pain of what could had been. She obviously had other guys on her plate either with you or after you. Doesn't matter how many or how long it has been she moved on while y'all were together so you need to move on now. That relationship isn't going to work out. The best thing for you is to go out with your boys and just be a man and play the field. Have fun and don't look back. Too many people live in the past when you are already in your own future. Keep moving and things will only get easier.

I know how you may feel though. The fact that you thought she was the girl for you. Well a lot of people think that way when they are in love. Simple fact is, is that not every love will work out. People get selfish. People say hurtful ****. You need to find a girl who is head over heals for you and work on that if you're looking to get back with somebody. As for me? I'd say just stay single for a while. You're young still I'm guessing around 21-23? Live your life... Life your life...

Stop feeling guilty about her choices, and rebuild your own life, and do your thing.

Read the stickies for some good tips on moving on, and being happy.

Thanks koolaide I'm doing well just working away and getting out with my friends as much as I can I thnk because we were together for so long I am just feeling a bit lonely as she used to practically live with me