My girlfriend doesn't want to be Official!
We meet awhile ago at work and started talking a lot. One day I finally asked her out she said yes, the first month we were all over each other witch is common for a relationship starting all the blood and emotions are pooing out understandable.
Soon we started talking about getting married and kids and our futer so on and so on. She says she loves me and I love her to death she is my soulmate for sure but lately she says she doesn't want to be official between me and her. One day she loves me and talks about our futer , the next day she says stuff like were not official.
I found out threw a girl at our work that we work with there good friends she told me how they went out the other night and she kissed a guy when she was really drunk I guess he tried to get more out of her but she wouldn't let him or go further then that. And to find out even more she gave some other guy her phone number and was texting him a lot but to find out he ended up being a loser said our co-worker.
Our co-worker who has been friends with my girl for years felt she should tell me this because she knows I love my girl and I am a very nice and loving person and that I should know about this and she feels really bad that she would do this to me. I confronted my girl about this kind of beating around the bush because my co-worker said please don't let her know I told you! Cause they are friends and she doesn't want drama. Anyway I asked my girl " i know you dont want to be offical. but if another guy came up too you and asked for your number would you give it to them or if someone made a move on you would you let them? " she responded kind of quitely "i dont know "
I could tell by her face she felt guilty and was thinking a lot kind of like does he know or how could he know or bring this up so to say. We kind of got in a little argument but as soon as we got to my house she was all over me and kissing me we had sex and the next day she texting me saying I miss you blah blah blah... it just seems like I try really hard to be with her even though I know she said she does want to be official.. but on the other hand very confusing considering she talks about marriage and kids and how I make her happy and tells me I'm the only one getting this ***** lol but then acts different a week later.
This has gone on for months now I love her but its breaking my heart I want her but I don't want to force her to love me the same. Does she just want to see what other guys make her feel like and see what else is out there? Does she truly love me ? Or am I just her safety net that she know that I will be there to talk and tell her I love her ?
Just to flash back a bit our co-worker told me this lastweekened when they went out together was a Friday our co-worker told me that stuff Wednesday the following week and that same night is when I asked my girl about being faithful to me and would she go out with someone else. Its Friday now my girl is still telling me she misses me and stuff like that but I am very sceptical about it I just don't know anymore where this is going or if there is a futer in us... please help with some advice
Thank you
O if this help I'm 26 and she is 24