Well pretty much I like my best buddy's girlfriend. He's been going out with her for about 15months and in that time I've got to be pretty good friends with her too. About 6 months ago I realised that I liked her as more than a friend, and started ignoring her a bit, but then eventually I just told her the reason for ignoring her was that I liked her, and she said to me it would change anything and we'd still be friends, and when we speak in person she's still friendly to me, and holds my hand sometimes when we're walking together, and when a girl thought me and her were girlfriend and boyfriend when we were standing together once she said no and that I was her best friend, but if I try and text her or speak to her on Facebook she just ignores me, and she only talks to me when she has to, she never goes out of her way to talk to me. But she's really close with her housemate (whose a guy) and she texts him everyday, and if she doesn't text him back quick enough she's like 'sorry I'm not ignoring you'. So why is she really friendly to him but ignores me? She's obviously not just ignoring me to stop her boyfriend from getting jealous because she still speaks to her male housemate all the time, so she obviously just hates me. I deleted her as a friend on Facebook and she didn't even notice.
I know she's not into me like that. I'm just wondering why she's not even acting like a friend anymore

She already knows how you feel. By giving you extra attention, it will lead you on into thinking there's something more.

It's obvious that she only sees you as her friend. But your feelings for her can twist her words and actions into thinking that she has romantic feelings for you.

Furthermore, she's in a relationship with your friend. You had it right the first time, you're better off ignoring her until your feelings for her have gone away.

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But the bottom line is, she already knows how you feel about her. If she wanted something more to happen, she would let you know. Her being friendly to you doesn't mean that she has romantic feelings. It means that she sees you as a friend.

I didn't say I thought she had romantic feelings for me, I never thought that and Im not trying to steal her off my friend, but you says she just sees me as a friend, that's what I'm getting at, she doesn't because she treats me as less then a friend

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Originally Posted by RalphI

I didn't say I thought she had romantic feelings for me, i never thought that and Im not trying to steal her off my friend, but you says she just sees me as a friend, thats what I'm getting at, she doesn't because she treats me as less then a friend

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She seems to be staying loyal to her boyfriend , which has to be respected, while not wanting to send any false signals to you, which also is good judgment as I see it.

She may act differently to other male friends because they have a different relationship than you do with her.
You should not judge how she acts towards you by the way she acts toward someone else because circumstances between people may be similar but are seldom if ever equal.

It may take some time to work through what may be uncomfortable for her to deal with right now.

She knows that you have feelings for her, which is why she's keeping some distance, so that it doesn't give you false hope.

What do you want from her exactly?

Maybe you expect too much of her, and its completely normal for her to back up, and not lead you on because you dumbly confessed what she thought was romantic feelings for her while you knew she was going with YOUR friend. That was completely inappropriate. That sent a bad signal of disrespect for her relationship, and messed up any friendship you may have enjoyed with her before.

Take the hint and back off, way off, and stop comparing how she treats her real friends.