My wife and I got married 8 months ago, we have 2 children together (boy of 6 and girl of 2), and have been together 7 1/2 years. Within weeks of our wedding, she began expressing doubts about whether she loved me. We talked and worked things through and things improved for a few months or so. She even said she really did love me and it felt like the world had been lifted off her shoulders now that things were back on track.
Unfortunately things got worse again, and she said she really didn't love me or want to spend her life with me. At first things were very difficult and she moved into the spare room. After a while though, things became more comfortable and she moved back in. She's very adamant though, that she doesn't see us having a future together and sooner or later we'll split as we're living a lie.
However we continue to get on pretty well, we're even returning to our honeymoon destination on our anniversary (her idea). From the outside you wouldn't know there was anything wrong as we get on fine and spend good time together as friends. She just seems unable to have any physical contact or offer any hope that we can work things out, but on the other hand talks freely about things like what we'll be doing as a family next Thanksgiving as if we'll still be together in the long run.
I think she's got deep rooted issues she needs to deal with outside of the marriage but she refuses to go to counseling as she doesn't see the point. Reading back my post its obvious she's very confused but she's so black and white on the rare occasions we talk about it. Her mother tells me to listen to what she does not says, but its difficult and very painful to continue this way. Not sure what advice people can offer but if there's any wives out there going through what she seems to be, I'd be grateful to hear your views on what I can try to do to rekindle things, other than giving her space and time.
Thanks, Adam.
