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What do I do! I need good advice please!!

So I'm in my mid 20's, I broke up with my long term girlfriend a few months ago... met a few girls but none that I liked a lot..

OK to make it short... met a girl in the bar few weeks ago.. we just looked at each other never spoke.. at the end when I was leaving she looked sad and waved, I knew she had a partner and she knew I liked her.. she took my number I didn't take hers... she text me next morning for a few days we text each other allday and night from 9am till midnight.. we met up a few times with friends.. she was touchy feely.. told me she liked me.. made me stay with her until my last train home and talked.. then called me when she got home.. this went on for a few days also.. her partner is much older than her and very very jealous they don't see each other much from what she says.. she became distant about a week ago she blamed it on meds she was taking.. and I told her how I felt and she said she couldn't do it anymore and but still persistent to be friends with me but still texts me every morning and night and talk on phone.. when she's away she is more distant and cold but when she's with me she's so much more warm and flirty.. what do I do.. I think I'm falling for her and this doesn't happen often to me.. shes so beautiful I can't even explain and I think about her all the time its driving me nuts... I think she feels guilty and but still wants me there as a friend... what do I doooo.. its so hard

You leave her alone. She has a boyfriend and she has other issues.
This is a place you should not have gone from the start. Now you need to leave.

You're coming off a break up and this girl flirts with you, it made you feel good.
Get over it. You are messing with someone who is with someone else. You could even be one of many for this girl.
Use your head. (the main one)

If she is doing this to the boyfriend she has now with you,if you to get together with her she will do you the same way she did him.And something seems a little off about her anyway you should take time away from dating and focus on yourself!!

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Unfortunately, I would find it difficult to trust her, even if you got together. Whether you want to admit it or not, she's leading you on.

Thanks for the advice guys.. its just hard when u fallen for someone.. but I'm slowly trying to move on.. still think about her everyday.. but hopefully someone else will come along because its too painful!. thanks for the replies..

Thanks for the advice guys.. its just hard when you fallen for someone.. but I'm slowly trying to move on.. still think about her everyday.. but hopefully someone else will come along because its too painful.. I don't think she leading me on.. she said to me the other day she felt guilty and cried down the phone think it was genuine.. that's why she has become cold.. she didn't want to give the chance to know me apparently because of obvious reasons.. heart broken but what can I do.. I will be a distant friend and maybe hopefully one day be with her.. thanks for the replies though..

You are clearly still heartbroken and you are in absolutely no shape to date again. The fact that you fell so hard for a female you met in a bar after a few elongated days of texting prove so. You are in such a hurry to find something to fill the void left by your recent breakup with your long term girlfriend that you fail to act rationally.

Leave the girls along for awhile. No amount of female attention can fill the hole left by your broken relationship - it is just a temporary fix, a band aid. My advice, take some time to be alone, to heal from your breakup and to be truly happy with yourself.

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Originally Posted by cellardoor009

what do i do..i think im falling for her and this doesnt happen often to me..

That's because you don't often break-up with a long time girlfriend only to find a barfly shortly thereafter.

Stay single for a while.