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  • Jul 2, 2010, 11:33 PM
    noorriz
    I have 3.5 years old girl how I teach her control her anger and cry
    She is getting angry quicly some time because of her behavir I lose my patiens and some time I making people hurt tell me a soloution for this and how I teach islam fr children for more attractive way

    Thanku
  • Jul 3, 2010, 10:19 AM
    mrshodges

    Im not sure exactly what you are saying but.. You have to show her the right way by actions and correcting. If you get angry, so will she. Don't give in to her tantrums, which are normal for that age group. If she gets mad tell her how to react by saying "it is ok to get mad but we express that with words not by being mean" or what ever she is doing.
  • Jul 11, 2010, 11:27 AM
    positiveparent

    You need to let her know that you're the Mummy and she's the child, you have to teach a child any child what no means, and when you say it you must mean it, she's already over 3 yrs old.

    You have got to be firm but fair don't shout at her, don't smack her, don't get angry with her, Just tell her no she cannot do this or that, children should be taught that when we say no we mean it well before they're 3 years old you're going to have a hard struggle getting her to learn what it means now, she's basically been spoilt and undisciplined for all of her life so far, Babies are cute yes, but they can also manipulate their mothers .

    You could try the Naughty chair routine, this being when she's naughty you ask her to stop once, and warn her she will go in the naughty chair if she ignores you for 3 times, then you go and you put her into the chair, and tell her she will stay there until she is sorry.

    If she screams or runs off, you go and you pick her up and you tell her firmly that she's to stay in the chair, you repeat this until she stays in the chair no matter how many times you have to run and get her and put her back in the chair, you must keep doing this, until she learns she's got to stay in the chair until she says sorry. If you keep this up in time she will get the hang of it, but don't let her go back to being naughty, make her stay in the chair until she says sorry, and do this every time she's naughty. Its not going to be easy. You've left it a little late in the day, now you will have to work hard at this or it won't work.

    You must keep this up though because she won't learn to discipline herself that's your job as her Mother, if you don't you'll find people won't want your daughter at their homes, if you have another child then teach it what NO means as young as possible. Or expect the same, People don't like unruly children, so you need to start this right now.

    Getting angry at her won't do you or her any good its not her fault she hasn't been taught that she cannot do certain things, you have to teach her that, and if you keep calm and be firm with her but don't yell at her or shout or scream or get angry with her. That will just make her worse.

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