No contact rule after breakup?
I had an online long distance relationship with this girl and it ran for a good 7 months or so. Anyway, she found someone new and I had to find out about it from a friend. I found out myself and I am deeply hurt,I couldn't believe she lied and cheated on me since we've always talked about how we are supposed to be "honest" with each other if someone finds a new interest there.
She broke up with me about two months before she and this girl are officially together but as I've noticed, it had been going on way back around 4 or 5 months ago! After the breakup I tried to remain friends with her (I think because I was still shocked of what happened so I tried to hold on) but every time I talk to her as a friend, I can't help but think how she lied to me and I was starring to hate myself for dealing with someone like her, thus, I told her I can't do the friendship thing anymore. (Although I really don't want to throw everything away and would like to be her friend). So I am doing the No contact thing for 4 days now, and I feel better,although it still hurts and I still cry every now and then.
The only thing I'm thinking right now is we kind of ended in a good note, ironic as it seems to be. She says she understands I need time off and that she's hoping to hear from me in the future. Did she really mean this? And will it be right to be in contact with her in the future? If so, then what for? She was never a friend to start with, when we're on IM, I am always the one who initiates contact. So,is there reason for me to contact her in the future, after I forgive her (If I could) about what happened? Should I contact her first or should I wait for her to contact me?