Last week began with a note on my door from my girlfriend. She said she wanted to come up and snuggle after she dropped kids at school but door was locked and she didn't want to wake me. The next day she invites me to take share lunch with her. I made time... And then some :-) We went skiing on Friday and I gave her lessons and she and I had a blast. She is a model and somewhat used to being objectified. I am 37 and she is 27.
On Saturday we had spent day together and she wanted to take off to a dinner party. I said OK, let's meet up later. We did. It was late. She wanted to meet more friends out and I said I kind of wanted to get some sleep. We went home and she looked me in the eye and said she couldn't do this anymore. She said never healed from her ex and her heart was not right. She needed to make things right with him - maybe not date him but their social lives were intertwined and she could not avoid him - or the past... I left. I know she spoke with him. I do not know what else. She likes to stay out later, but other than that we had a blast. I guess some underlying issues came up, but it is very depressing. I have not said a word to her. She emailed me a few times the next day to be friendly (How's work? Do you have so and so's number for a job lead?)
I blew it all off, since we had taken such a radical turn. I ran into her yesterday and she was effected by response - or something - but she seemed kind of numb and passive and just nodded kind of blankly. She had to pick up the kids and said she was sorry, but I could catch up with her later or not after kids taken care of... It was so non-commital I just passed... Thoughts??
We dated for 7 months... And when I say "objectified" I simply mean that her looks have been her business and she is used to unwarranted attention perhaps but she is comfortable mostly with that life's "perk"...