I'm having problems with my alleged daughters mother I use to live with them before my daughter was born and when she was born her mother went on welfare and the courts made me pay child support and on top of child support she would ask me for 200 a week or I won't see my daughter I left her and went to court they made me pay more child support and visitation alternate weekends and every wednesdays the last time I saw her was on December 25 I was suppose to spend the weekendwith her on January 1 but the mother called me to tell me that my daughter was ill and couldn't see her until she was well we made an agreement that the week I missed I would get her and my court order date so that would two weeks in a row she no that I only get to see her 1 weekend and if I didn't like it too bad that I had to do what she said when she say I told her that not even my wife talk to me like that she is being real spiteful because I don't want to be with her I got married and she mad because I lost my job still pending unemployment and couldn't pay my child support and don't give her extra money she says that my daughter calls her boyfriend daddy I tried to get full custody the court denied it she doesn't buy nothing for my daughter with the child support money my daughter is 3 still not in preschool can't speak well doesn't take her to eye specialist she drinks a lot of alcohol has other people with her my daughter sleeps late or all day doesn't hardly eat large portions of food she uses the money for her bills and get her hair done and also uses her son ssi money she also told me that my daughter is not mine she gets food stamps for my daughter so I no she eats from that money so why do I have to continue paying support if its not for my daughter I want to give up my rights as a father I don't want this drama anymore I understand what I am doing but can't do what she wants and when she wants I don't mind if I have to pay child support but rather not for her satification what do I have to do or where do I have to go?

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Originally Posted by adnerdiaz1

im having problems with my alleged daughters mother i use to live with them before my daughter was born and when she was born her mother went on welfare and the courts made me pay child support and on top of child support she would ask me for 200 a week or i wont see my daughter i left her and went to court they made me pay more child support and visitation alternate weekends and every wednesdays the last time i saw her was on december 25 i was suppose to spend the weekendwith her on january 1 but the mother called me to tell me that my daughter was ill and couldnt see her until she was well we made an agreement that the week i missed i would get her and my court order date so that would two weeks in a row she no that i only get to see her 1 weekend and if i didnt like it too bad that i had to do what she said when she say i told her that not even my wife talk to me like that she is being real spiteful because i dont want to be with her i got married and she mad because i lost my job still pending unemployment and couldnt pay my child support and don't give her extra money she says that my daughter calls her boyfriend daddy i tried to get full custody the court denied it she doesnt buy nothing for my daughter with the child support money my daughter is 3 still not in preschool can't speak well doesnt take her to eye specialist she drinks alot of alcohol has other people with her my daughter sleeps late or all day doesnt hardly eat large portions of food she uses the money for her bills and get her hair done and also uses her son ssi money she also told me that my daughter is not mine she gets food stamps for my daughter so i no she eats from that money so why do i have to continue paying support if its not for my daughter i want to give up my rights as a father i dont want this drama anymore i understand what i am doing but can't do what she wants and when she wants i dont mind if i have to pay child support but rather not for her satification what do i have to do or where do i have to go?

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There is a sticky at the top of the Family Law forum regarding termination of parental rights. You can read it here:
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/family...st-116098.html
Most courts will not allow you to simply relinquish your rights just because the other parent is being difficult.

The reason you pay child support is because if you were still with the mother, the child would be receiving ALL of your income. The child shouldn't have to suffer just because her parents are not together. The custodial parent receives child support to offset the costs of raising the child by themselves.

Have you been established as the legal father through either a court-ordered DNA test or by signing a paternity acknowledgment?

Do you feel that your daughter is being neglected? Can you prove anything which you have said here? Have you contacted Child Protective Services about these allegations?

Also, a few other things:
1) Pre-school is not required.
2) What type of "eye specialist" do you think your daughter should be seeing? Does she currently wear glasses? Does she have problems with her vision?
3) If the mother is withholding the child from you when you are supposed to be granted visitation, you NEED to file for contempt of court against her.

Stepping away from the legal aspect of this, I don't think that you relinquishing your rights is the best option. If the situation is as bad as you claim, your daughter needs you; giving up your rights would mean that you're giving up on her just so you don't have to deal with her mother. Any child deserves a better life than that.

What you need to do is start taking responsibility of your child. Its not up to her. If the court says you have visitation then you have it. So use it. If the mother refuses then call the police and ask them to go there with you because you expect trouble. Bring a copy of the order with you. Don't play her game. And since you have a child your obligated for life. Just because you don't "feel" like it is to bad. Grow a spine and start really caring for your child. You have the courts backing already so use it.