Originally Posted by
BlackVY
From my experience as being a controlling boyfriend in the past, its not such an easy habit to break, and though you try to show him that you are committed to him and what him to be assured that you are just talking to people for fun, not to hook up with them, its not going to be easy for him to believe or accept.
It will take time on his part to understand that you love him and won't hurt him. He may have been less controlling with an ex in the past, an ex who hurt him because he gave her too much freedom to do whatever she wanted, so now he is being more careful and more protective. I know its not good, but the guy doesn't know it and can't really see it as a bad thing.
He needs to know how this makes you feel, and that him controlling you like this, holding you so tight, might make you leave him and his possessiveness in the future, because though you may not want to leave, you will feel so suffocated that you will have no choice.
My advice is to talk to him, tell him how this makes you feel, be honest and open with him and keep telling him that he is the only one for you and you won't hurt him, that talking to some people is just something you do when you are playing your games and you are not looking for someone else to be with. Even invite him to sit in some of your online games with you if that will prove to him there is no flirting going on in your chats... This might reduce his worry factor..