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  • Nov 25, 2009, 08:47 AM
    ssstephen
    I am married man, but I fell in love with my colleague at work

    I am married man .But I fall in love my colleague in office.She is not married.Though she is not so beautiful.But I really love her.But
    She is not loving.But she like me as a friend.
    I am not able to leave her.Some time she hurts me.So I am get frustrated.I am ready to marry her too.But I don't know what to do in this situation
  • Nov 25, 2009, 08:49 AM
    adam_89
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ssstephen View Post
    I am married man .But I fall in love my collegue in office.She is not married.Though she is not so beautiful.But I realy love her.But
    she is not loving.But she like me as a friend.
    I am not able to leave her.Some time she hurts me.So iam get frustrated.i am ready to marry her too.But I dont know what to do in this situation

    First off start your own thread.

    Thanks!
  • Nov 25, 2009, 11:18 AM
    Jake2008
    You need to snap out of this. Set your emotions on hold for a minute and really think about what you have said.

    You are married, that comes first. Not usually a good idea to think about marriage with another woman, who does not love you, and likes you only as a friend.

    You have a relationship with your wife to sort out first. And an obligation to her to work hard to sort through and deal with problems. If that means that eventually you do get divorced, only then can you ever consider another woman, let alone another marriage.

    You are infatuated with something you cannot have. You may feel 'love' for her, but it is not reciprocated, and may never be. To plan your future under these circumstances is doomed.

    I'm attracted to men all the time, but I would never act on feelings like that. It just means I'm not brain dead. I have been married for a very long time, and to risk my marriage over just infatuation, would never happen.

    Try to think rationally here as I've said. You have much to lose, and nothing to gain.
  • Nov 25, 2009, 07:03 PM
    Cat1864
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ssstephen View Post
    I am 40.I love a person of age 29.Will it workout.Because she does not love me

    That is from an Accounting Forum thread.

    No, it will not work out. She does not love you. You are creating a fantasy of what you want that does not exist in reality.

    Leave this younger woman alone to live her own life and find her own love. Put the energy that you are using to pursue her into your marriage.
  • Nov 26, 2009, 01:18 AM
    Gemini54
    Would you bash your head against a brick wall or stick pins in your eyes?

    Well, what you're proposing is just as senseless... she's younger than you, she doesn't have feelings for you and you're married.

    Get a reality check, you're acting like fool and it can only end it tears. Your tears.
  • Nov 27, 2009, 11:28 AM
    JudyKayTee

    I don't think you are going to marry anyone right now. You are already married.

    Work that out first.
  • Nov 27, 2009, 11:31 AM
    Alty

    You want to marry a girl that doesn't love you, because you love her but... you're already married?

    You need therapy. Lots of therapy!
  • Nov 27, 2009, 06:48 PM
    talaniman

    I bet your wife can help you out with this problem. Ask her what you should do, and follow her advice.
  • Nov 27, 2009, 06:52 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    I bet your wife can help you out with this problem. Ask her what you should do, and follow her advice.

    Why do I always have to spread the rep? :(

    Here's your greenie Tal. :D

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