Deciding whether to end a relationship?
Hello all,
First, thank you for reading my post and providing me with your opinion. This is very difficult for me to write and I will try and keep it as short as possible.
I have been in a 4 year relationship and have we have attempted to get married twice, each time postponed for many reasons - too busy, scheduling, family etc... While we have no "real" issues within the relationship itself, other than being sexually mismatched, he has never been very interested in sex from day one (I'm very opposite!) of the relationship but he does engage when he feels inclined. This itself would never cause me to end a relationship as I'm aware there are so many other factors that are priority, it does bother me from time to time. Having said that, I consider this a minor nuisance. We are good friends, can talk about almost everything, and I would consider him as one of my best friends. Here is where the problem comes in... we both see our future life direction differently. He is a European resident with no interest of obtaining a US citizenship as he would like to remain living in Europe for the majority of the time. I DO NOT want to live in Europe and frankly cannot stand the travel back and forth and would prefer to establish a nice life here and create a family. He has all the same interest with the exception that he does not want to live in one location, he would prefer to have two homes and travel between the two countries. We both also have very different views on our future, children, retirement, etc... We also spend anywhere between 6-8 months living apart due to him going to Europe frequently, as I choose to stay behind. It feels like I am waiting to see if something changes, and while I'm not getting any younger, I'm waiting for him to change in some way. To make matters worse, I have developed feelings for someone else, in which I have not acted on, nor does this new man know my feelings but it definitely has made me re-think the situation I'm in and wonder if there is someone else out there for me.
Any advice would be appreciated!
Additional info - we are 10 years apart in age I am in my early thirties.
I definitely LOVE him, but we have very different opinions on our future and no one is willing to budge at this point.