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  • Oct 27, 2009, 07:18 PM
    courtney15
    Underage marriage.
    Lets see, well I'm 15 years old and I have a boyfriend who's 17 about to be 18. We want to get married, so I was wondering if we can still get married even though he's 18?:confused:
  • Oct 27, 2009, 07:21 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by courtney15 View Post
    lets see, well im 15 years old and i have a boyfriend whos 17 about to be 18. we want to get married, so i was wondering if we can still get married even though he's 18?:confused:

    He can get married when he's 18 in most states, you can't because you're still a child.

    Are you pregnant? Is that why you want to get married?
  • Oct 27, 2009, 07:27 PM
    courtney15

    No, I already have a baby.
  • Oct 27, 2009, 07:30 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by courtney15 View Post
    no, i already have a baby.

    How are you supporting this child?

    Do you live with your parents? Are they okay with you marrying this boy?

    Is the child his?

    What state do you live in?
  • Oct 27, 2009, 07:30 PM
    ScottGem

    Is your boyfriend the father? What state do you live in?
  • Oct 27, 2009, 07:32 PM
    courtney15
    Yes I live with my parents, and they're okay with me marrying him as long as he gets a job first. He's not the father but he's been with me since I was pregnant..

    I live in Utah.
  • Oct 27, 2009, 07:35 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by courtney15 View Post
    yes i live with my parents, and theyre okay with me marrying him as long as he gets a job first. hes not the father but hes been with me since i was pregnant..

    So you're going from the frying pan into the fire.

    Why the rush to get married? Why not wait until you're older?

    How old is the father of your child? Did he go to jail for statutory rape?

    I simply cannot understand how any parents would be okay with their 15 year old daughter getting married.
  • Oct 27, 2009, 07:38 PM
    ScottGem

    I have to agree, what's the rush? You say he's been with you since you became pregnant, how long as that been?

    And I also would like to know what the story is about the father. Was he prosecuted for statutory rape, or is he playing support?
  • Oct 27, 2009, 07:41 PM
    courtney15

    I want to wiat until I know he can support me and the baby, but he's trying to rush everything. I get what your saying though, I'm not so sure I'm ready for the whole marriage thing yet anyway..

    The fathers 18, and yes he did.
  • Oct 27, 2009, 08:00 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by courtney15 View Post
    i want to wiat until i know he can support me and the baby, but hes trying to rush everything. i get what your saying though, im not so sure im ready for the whole marriage thing yet anyways..

    the fathers 18, and yes he did.

    Yes he did what? Go to jail?

    The same thing could happen with your new boyfriend if you have sex.

    If he loves you then he can wait until your older to get married. Getting married at 15 is statistically not a great idea. The odds are against this lasting. Why set yourself up for failure if you can just wait 5 to 10 years, when you're an adult and ready to support yourself.

    I have a feeling that this really isn't what you want, but you're trying to please him.
  • Oct 27, 2009, 08:01 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    You can get married if your parents sign for you to get married,
  • Oct 28, 2009, 07:27 AM
    ScottGem

    I'm with Alty, the father did what? Pay support, go to jail, what?

    If the father went to jail, I suspect that may be why your boyfriend is in a rush, since he knows it will be illegal for you to have sex unless you are married.

    But you are right, you need to wait. Marriage can be a strain, especially at your age and with a baby.

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