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  • Oct 19, 2009, 04:12 PM
    lef1994
    Orgasm trouble
    My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and have been sexual for about five months or so. We are three years apart. I have never had and orgasm with my boyfriend or my ex boyfriend who I was with for eight months. My boyfriend think that I don't like having sex with him. How can I have a orgasm to show him I like him?
  • Oct 19, 2009, 04:12 PM
    Alty

    How old are you?
  • Oct 19, 2009, 04:17 PM
    lef1994

    15 he's 17. Meant 2 years
  • Oct 19, 2009, 04:23 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by lef1994 View Post
    15 hes 17. Meant 2 years

    Sweetie, you're not even legal to have sex, so it would be illegal, not to mention immoral for us to give you tips on achieving orgasm.

    He could go to jail for statutory rape. You're underage.
  • Oct 19, 2009, 04:31 PM
    friend4u178

    Do you realise that by having sex you could get pregnant , even if you use contraception which isn't 100% affective.

    Are you ready to be a Mom and waste your whole teenage years??
  • Oct 19, 2009, 04:35 PM
    Cat1864
    I know you don't want to hear this, but he could be in serious legal trouble. For just exposing himself to you, he could end up on the Sex Offenders Registry for the rest of his life.

    There is more to life and relationships than sex. This is the time of your life to learn how to interact in a relationship without relying on your body to keep the relationship going.
  • Oct 19, 2009, 04:38 PM
    lef1994

    I no but we are very close we have known each other for a while. I no that I am underage but we are still going very slow.
  • Oct 19, 2009, 04:40 PM
    friend4u178

    Having sex at the age of 15 is not going slow , and like the others have said your BF can get into a lot of trouble.
  • Oct 19, 2009, 04:47 PM
    Cat1864
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by lef1994 View Post
    i no but we are very close we have known eachother for a while. I no that i am underage but we are still going very slow.

    You aren't going slow if you are even attempting to have sex of any type in any form or fashion.

    You need to slow down even farther. Take time to get to know each other. There is absolutely no rush to have sex. If he feels differently, then you need a new boyfriend.
  • Oct 19, 2009, 04:50 PM
    Alty

    You're 15. The chances that you'll be with him forever are very slim, almost nonexistent.

    You need to slow down. Are you ready for the very adult consequences of sex?

    No form of birth control is 100%. You can double up, triple up, use every one available at the same time and still get pregnant. At 15 I know you aren't ready to be a mom, and I can pretty much bet he wouldn't stick around.

    Really, you have to slow down. Enjoy your childhood, don't be in such a rush to be a grownup, you'll get there soon enough.
  • Oct 19, 2009, 05:19 PM
    jmjoseph
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by lef1994 View Post
    i no but we are very close we have known eachother for a while. I no that i am underage but we are still going very slow.

    You don't even know that "know" is not spelled "no". Concentrate on school.

    How can you be "going slow" when you've already had sex?

    How does your response even matter when you've been told that it is illegal for you two to be having sexual contact?
  • Oct 19, 2009, 05:34 PM
    britEl

    Age of consent (legal ages of consent for EVERYWHERE) listen kid, this is very irresponsible behavior! Not only are you risking your boyfriend of getting convicted of statutory rape, but you are also risking yourself, you could get pregnant, (condoms are NOT 100% baby proof, nothing is 100% baby proof for that matter) and you could get an STD, which I'm guessing you don't want to get into that stuff when you're only 15. I understand growing up, and you're interested in sexuality but relationships shouldn't be based on sex! You should only have sex with someone you love, and trust. Maybe you "think" you love this boy, but chances are a couple months down the line your not going to be dating him anymore and then you're going to realize: wow you just gave away your virginity to some guy that you didn't even have feelings for. Sad but is likely to happen
  • Oct 19, 2009, 08:29 PM
    JudyKayTee

    If going slow is having sex and not being able to have an orgasm, what is going fast?

    I occasionally pay for dinner, buy concert tickets, to show my boyfriend that I love him - I didn't know an orgasm on my part would do the same thing for a lot less money!
  • Oct 19, 2009, 08:40 PM
    JudyKayTee
    [QUOTE=Comments on this post
    Altenweg agrees: Well it would be cheaper. ;)![/QUOTE]



    And presumably I wouldn't have to change clothes after work. Or wear high heels.
  • Oct 19, 2009, 09:04 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    And presumably I wouldn't have to change clothes after work. Or wear high heels.

    "Come" as you are. :p
  • Oct 22, 2009, 11:25 PM
    Miss_x_erika
    Oooookkkkk...

    1.) I agree... too young for sex.
    2.) I'm a total hypocrite cause I lost my virginity at 15 to a guy who was 17...
    3.) I wish daily I hadn't.
    4.) If you're not having an orgasm when you're having sex with this guy or any other guy maybe it's because you are subconciously thinking about what might happen (pregnancy, parents find out, etc.) and not focused on your s.o.

    && if you're so worried about it... STOP DOING IT.


    Don't give up your innocence so easily. Trust me, when you get older and in a more serious relationship with some guy who really wants something real with you hearing about you having sex with at least 2 guys by 15 is not something he's going to want to hear.
    I am 18 now, currently in love. Been with this guy for 8 months. No sex, cause we agreed it would become constant and we want more than that from each other...

    Consider all the possibilities.

    And STOP posting stuff about your sex life online sweetie. Not only is it illegal it's immoral.

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