I love a Man that loves his ex!
My kids father & I have two children & have been going through a lot since our first son's birth with one another. We reconciled broke up... contrary! For the last two years he have been with this girl, whom I don't really care for (living a reckless life I might add), & he cut the relationship off in June of 09', with her & came back to his 'family'... the kids & I. We were together as a happy family so I thought. We were having sex, now things have changed. His mind wonders... I guess he's sitting thinking of her!
He told me that he is 'not' all the way here... meaning as a family due to the fact of our past! & that him & her are still fresh in their break up! I was so hurt & confused because he stated to me that we were concrete. He said that he doesn't know what is wrong with him but he still loves her & think that he still want to be with her & just be a 'baby-daddy'. He told me that he doesn't want me to take the kids out of his life that he will alway's love me as his kids mom. He stress the fact that he would consider 'counseling', to see if saving his family was the right thing to do... which he knows! I don't know if I'm being stupid waiting & seeing what counseling going to do, or should I just should let him go! Really I don't want to lose him, I love him so much! He moved out & went back to his moms house, whom doesn't approve of the girl in question. Every time we talk for some reason we end up talking about this same situation & I asked why? Move out & he stated that he didn't want to make no mistakes & that he have a lot of choices to make. I told him that I never stopped loving him even when we were apart, that I alway's wanted him. She has children, but they have been tooken' from her(by the state) no where to live & want half of him... his baby! That's crazy! I need help! HELP!
I love a Man that loves his ex!
I was giving to great responses to my question, that I gratfully appreciate! Thanxx! But still so confused! My kids... I don't want to be another statistic! I don't want to do this thing by myself & I definitely don't want another man/woman help raising our children. I have a lot of morals & I refuse to settle for less, but it looks like I need to just... It hurts to say but I really know the truth. It feels as if I'm settling for less just being in my situation. I can't sleep nor am I eating healthy! I'm letting this get the best of me & I can't believe it because I have a strong persona & I'm also very confident! I don't know he has over me because reality is that I never really moved on with my life. It seems as if every guy that I have delt with never worked out... because of me! I'm apologectic! I feel like I lead them on trying to fulfill my void(selfish). I stuck in this warfare within myself! I'm going to pray & let God! Speak to me as well. {{{Thanks}}} fr ALL the advice & constructive critism! I truly am grateful & digested every word for word!