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Since May I've been seeing a girl who is very special to me(known her for 10 years)
We get on really well,have some really great times together. One problem though is
We have just started having sex which is really good. When we finish I have problems with what to say which gets my girlfriend very upset. Please help because I don't want to loose her.
I came out of a bitter relationship early this year (7 years & engaged) but this is all new to me again... Please help:(

What do you mean you have problems with what to say? Is it because your breathless with how great it was and can't get any words out? (ive been there)

Or do you say horrible things to her? Or do you just not say what she wants to here?

I don't know what the right or wrong thing to say is. I think I just smile. Smiling is a pretty good way to show you enjoyed something.

In saying that I don't usually have to force a smile. Because in most cases I really enjoyed it and can't help but smile!

Tease her, giggle - laugh - no seriosus stuff.

Please don't ask you asked her "how was it" PLEASE!! Those are tender moments you hold her and smile and look into her eyes. You don't have to say one word. Hug her.

What were you asking/talking about? Only dumbasses get serious after that.

OK so the sex is over, and your lying next to her... you don't know what to say?
Well here's something someone told me once... trusting someone completely is not feeling the need to speak... is it a reasonable though that maybe there are trust or commitment issues somewhere there? Try to figure out why you don't know what to say first, and then figure out what your going to do

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Originally Posted by fontaine5035

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When we finish I have problems with what to say which gets my girlfriend very upset.:(

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If you mean right after sex :-

WWOOWW :D
That was amazing.. I could sure do it over and over again:p ( but don't lie if you don't feel that way )

I personally don't say a lot... all we do is stare in eachothers eyes, with a naughty dirty kinky smile ;)

I lay my head on my wife chest and nod out. After sex is no time to discuss the problems of the world. RELAX as you know each other better your personal routine will be apparent.

Also if you are not comfortable in silence between you something is wrong. I believe that anyway.