What are the reasons behind my ex's actions?
Three months ago, my girlfriend of 5 years told me she wanted a break. Two months ago, we broke up for good. She said she was no longer in love with me. We have had no contact for the last six weeks, because I told her I did not want any contact. I want no contact so that I can get over her and so we both have time and space to think about things.
We broke up due to her insecurities about the relationship. She was very unsure about her decision to break up and I feel that she is still in love with me. However, I have accepted that the relationship is over and I am trying to move on.
She sent me a birthday card a few days ago. I also got a missed call from a blocked ID very late on the night of my birthday. I have not got one of those calls for a long time - is that a coincidence, or was she phoning me for some reason (possibly drunk)? Does it matter? I was pretty surprised to get the card. I sent her a short text message thanking her for it, because although I do not want contact with her, I want to be polite. She replied with a very brief message. That was it.
What is going on? What was the point in sending me a birthday card? I felt by texting her to say thanks that I was giving her the opportunity to say anything she wanted to say. If she was looking for friendship, I think I gave her the opportunity to say something. I feel that if there is to be a discussion about our relationship or getting back together, it has to come from her. I am not chasing her anymore. I have no intention of contacting her again. What do you guys think? Thanks for reading this.
Joseph,
Calgary, AB