A friend tried to kiss me.Is that cheating?
I'm not married, but for years have been deeply in love, and committed to a relationship with a man in a foreign country. We have cultural differences, so sometimes communication and customs differ and there's no end to the learning process.
After spending one or two nights a week together, he's started spending most nights with me. I'd never realized how jealous he is, before, and not being jealous myself, it completely blind sides me when he overacts. So, the other night one of my male friends, from my same country (who's many years older than me, and nothing but a friend), and I met on my way home and on his way to dinner, so we walked together. It was just after dark, maybe 7:30 or 8 at the latest, although I usually like to be home by 6. We were talking and laughing along the way, like friends do, but when we got to my turn-off, he suddenly turned to kiss me... Well, I turned my face, so it ended up being my cheek, and then he said "give me a hug, then." I relented in patting him on the shoulder and left. It was later, when my boyfriend didn't show up as usual, I realized that he might have seen us somehow. He came by for a few minutes the next evening and was cold as ice, looking hurt, and would not tell me why. I should have told him what had happened, and taken the chance that he wouldn't have told me it was my fault, even though it wasn't instigated by me. It was only a friendly exchange on MY part, and who would have thought it would cause such a big problem. He seems to have already judged me, and thinks I was cheating. I really love him and would never hurt him in any way, or ever leave him for another man. I'm being totally honest in saying that. I could leave him for other reasons, but never that one. Couldn't imagine being intimate with any other man, although he's certainly not my first, he will be my last. I've told him that many times over the years but it doesn't seem to help. What do I do? How can I reassure him? Make him understand that I was innocently walking home with a friend when things went stupid. Please help. I really need to get this sorted.