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  • Jul 18, 2009, 12:55 PM
    love_22
    Military marriage
    I am a 17 yr girl who is going to be a senior next month I make 18 in Oct, my boyfriend is 20 and is attending a community college in town and he makes 21 in Oct as well. We have been dating for almost a 1yr 1/2,we are both considering going to the air force when I graduate in May. We plan on getting married before we go but I would like to know is this a good idea or not. We want to get married before we go because we want to make sure we get stationed together. Is this a good thing to do?
  • Jul 18, 2009, 12:58 PM
    Alty

    If you're questioning it then I'd so no, it's not a good idea.

    Obviously you have doubts. You're young, do you really want to tie yourself down right now?

    Why not wait? If you love each other then waiting a few years won't change anything.

    Good luck.
  • Jul 18, 2009, 02:44 PM
    jenniepepsi

    I agree with alty *gotta spread the rep sorry*

    If you are having any doubts its NOT a good time to be getting married.

    Good luck
  • Jul 18, 2009, 03:08 PM
    Torrid13

    Definitely wait. Going into the military and gaining experiences that aren't confined to your high school will greatly change you and your views; this isn't a bad thing, but sometimes when two people experience things, they experience them separately, and grow apart.

    Let yourself experience life first before taking such a huge step. There's much learning left to do before you'll be ready to even attempt such a huge commitment. Have you talked to your parents about this and gotten their opinions? I would highly suggest this!

    And who knows? Maybe you'll find someone who's an even better match for you! :)
  • Jul 18, 2009, 09:06 PM
    talaniman

    I think you should wait, and see what other options, and opportunities you will have after high school. A lot can change in a year. Plus you both will be a year wiser.
  • Jul 18, 2009, 11:28 PM
    Gemini54
    Going into the military and getting married are 2 separate things. I would not confuse them.

    By all means join the military, begin your career and see if you can be stationed with your BF - but I would wait on the marriage thing - I think you need a bit of time, distance and perspective on your situation before you make such a serious decision.

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