About a friend/relationship?
I have know a girl for 10 years. We first met because she was dating a friend of mine. When we first met she started to casually flirt with me. For example she would demand a hug or kiss me. I always thought she was interested in me. Flash forward to years later we have gotten closer and eventually when I would see her we would mess around. She once told me she had always liked me. So I knew the flirting had some meaning behind it. She then hooked up with my other best friend and said a part of it was because he reminded her of me. They didn't work out and I was mad at both of them. Flash forward a few more years and we continued to casually hook up when we would see each other. We are very far from each other so we didn't get the opportunity to see each other very often. We built our relationship on a telephone and grew attached to one another. She would send me pics of herself if I woulded ask for it or would randomly keep sending me. Some of these pics were of her in a bikini or just head shots. Back in the day she would send me nude pictures, but that was when she was seeing my other friend and when she admitted she had a thing for me.
She never lets me go. We get into huge arguments and we both are usually like I am never going to talk to you. We always end up talking to each other again.
Anyway I just recently moved closer to her because of the job market. I stayed at her place and she was just always upset with me. For example the type of job I was looking for, she called me superficial when I made a comment about her having freckles of all things (she asked me if she had a lot and I agreed) and told me she was worried about me. She also keeps thinking I am mean to her and don't respect her because I stayed at her place and didn't give her a gift or a thank you card. I have never done that in the past and usually just leave it at thank you. Anyway, I finally asked her if she like has feelings for me. She said no she could never date me because of the way I am. I said why do you continue to flirt and she said its no big deal to her. So 10 years of sending pics, she saying I would probably leave any girl for her and straight up always wanting to see me didn't mean anything to her. As she said we are just friends and she said sorry that she flirts with me. Also all those years of hooking up was just hooking up nothing more.
So the question is am I just a friend, a random hook up buddy, or a friend she just flirts with? I have no idea anymore. I care about her a lot, but it seems she has some issues with me. To me it feels she honestly cares about me and would date me but I am missing something. We argue a lot, but we always come back to each other. :confused:
