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  • May 7, 2009, 08:35 AM
    pigger
    Am I wasting my time?
    Been dating for two years.Have talked about how we want to spend the rest of our lives together.But marriage is a light subject.I recently receive a promotion in the mail for a free trip, but to qualify we have to be married,living together or engaged.We are neither.My boyfriend suggested that I call back and lie by telling them we are engaged, and that we could burrow a ring.I don`t want to wast my time.But at the same time I don`t think we are ready.After two years do you think we should be ready?I do eventually.He says and shows that he is very serious about me.But that comment really alarmed me.
  • May 7, 2009, 08:54 AM
    I wish

    Well if you feel uncomfortable about something, then talk it out with him. Communication is key in a relationship. Tell your boyfriend how you feel about the whole situation.

    If you don't want to go on the trip, then don't go. Don't let the pressure get to you. Stay strong!
  • May 7, 2009, 12:03 PM
    talaniman

    I think your letting an innocent comment get to you. You seem to be doing fine the way things are, so don't get carried away by a random comment he probably has forgotten.
  • May 7, 2009, 12:46 PM
    shazamataz

    I have been with my partner for nearly 4 years... we joke about marriage and he often refers to me as his "missus"

    I don't expect him to propose, us being together is enough for me, it will happen eventually. Just don't stress about it or it will become an issue.
  • May 8, 2009, 08:59 AM
    roxypox

    I don\t think you should let his comment freak you out. Every couple and individual go at their own speed. I have a cousin who's only been with her boyfriend for a year and a few months their getting married in 2 weeks. But I have several friends who\ve been with their bfs for 2/4 years and non of them have talked about it yet.

    If it does bother you, you should consider talking to him about it. Like I wish said< communication is the key. But for right now, lower your shoulders and don\t sweat it. If you don\t want to go on the trip, don\t. if you're not ready for marrige, then your not. But it might be a good idea to talk to him about it ;)

    Best of luck! ROXY!
  • May 9, 2009, 08:00 PM
    Survivor07

    The comment was just that... a comment.

    If things are fine now and you're enjoying your relationship, then that's all that matters.

    There's no hurry when it comes to marriage. I think it's very level-headed of you both.

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