My girlfriend wants a baby and she told me this but she said she would wait but she says condoms hurt and that's why she doesn't want to you them I don't know if she's lying to me that they hurt to get a baby but she's taking a test today to find out if she's pregnant or not but I did not finish when we did have sex and we are both 16 if she's lying I don't know if she really loves me for me then what do I do

She may be lying to you or may be allergic to latex. Use lambskin condoms- they don't protect from STD's.

Use a condom every time if she is not on birth control, well she sounds a little iffy since you guys are already taking a pregnancy test. Has she told you she wanted a baby?

Don't have a kid now- it's really hard to manage. If she keeps pressuring you the best thing to do is to dump her, I wouldn't trust her- let her ruin her own life.

Sarah

She is being manipulative. She clearly wants a baby that is why she does not want to use one. Even if you use the "pull out method" you can still get her pregnant. Best of luck

Of course, she is lying to you.

How experienced is she if your only both young?

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She may be lying to you or may be allergic to latex. Use lambskin condoms- they don't protect from STD's

Sarah

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I did not want to mention lambskin, as he is so young and not aware of safer sex practices... it would set him up for std's

In this case I would use my hand... as to avoid an complications or mistakes...

Oh for heaven's sake!

Do you want to be a father at 16??

Forget about condoms with her and get the hell put of there.

You can get pregnant off precum and who cares what your girlfriend don't want. No glove no love, make that your motto.

I hope this incident scares some sense into you. Babies are expensive and babies don't stay a baby for long. They do grow up and get more expensive.

This girl already expressed to you that she wanted a baby and that should've been a red flag and make you want to wear 2 condoms to be safe.

I would like to know how long the two of were engaging in sexual activity before she stated it hurted her? Did anyone around you recently had a baby?

On a side note you need to educate yourself about sex by talking to an adult. Get the facts. Here goes a link for you if you should have any questions regarding sex. There a sex ed thread on here so don't be shy. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/pregna...me-272922.html

Granted, she could be not lubricated enough, or the latex causing an irritation, however, she's done the whole, "I want a baby with you" bit, so I'm a bit iffy on that.

You need to find out why it hurts, have her see a doctor about it and maybe get some insight about it. The whole "I want a baby" at 16 is just out of control.

Look, she's already told you her M.O. so it's best to head for the hills before she traps you because that's exactly what she's trying to do.

At your age, you should understand the consequences of sex (pregnancy, STDs, etc) and you really should know to be more careful. The reality is that condoms are not 100% effective even when used properly so unless you are ready to become a father (my guess is that you are not), then sex at your age is not wise. And especially not with a girl that says she wants a baby.

A child is a lifetime responsibility and the idea of a baby seems "cute and fun" but it's not. It's a LOT of hard work. Most adults struggle with the expenses and emotional strain of raising a child and I don't believe that either of you are prepared for the job.

Your sixteen you shouldn't be having sex period! Especially if she says she wants a baby! I'm a woman, and I am not afraid to say women are sneaky and manipulative, especially as teens, so always use a condom. Try polyurethane or lambskin, but don't go unprotected even if she says she's on the pill. That said condoms also cause me extreme discomfort but the key is plenty of lubrication and find the kind that she likes the best.