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  • Sep 18, 2006, 05:24 AM
    stacey_meacher
    Will I get back with my ex?
    Hi

    I just come out of a serious relationship, he split up with me because he didn't want a relationship anymore we were together for a year and a half. I really miss him and I want him back but I went out last weekend and ended up kissing his brother. He found out and went mad. Do you think that he will ever get back with me!! Is there anyway of finding out if he will come back to me or not?

    Thanks
  • Sep 18, 2006, 07:18 AM
    Krs
    The only person who can answer your question is your ex and no one else.

    Under the circumstances explained by yourself, to be honest I don't think he will.
    1 - you said yourself he told you directly he didn't want a relationship.
    2 - you kissed his brother... he may think you did to make him jealous and that doesn't always work on guys!
  • Sep 18, 2006, 07:29 AM
    CaliforniaOrange
    ^I agree, kissing his brother probably sealed the deal. Based on the limited amount of info given, I'd say your best bet is to give him a few weeks of no contact and then try to sincerely apoligize and be as reasonable as possible... that could work.
  • Sep 18, 2006, 07:35 AM
    BIM
    I do not know the reasons you broke up in the first place, but I am pretty confident that after you kissed his brother your chances of reconciliation are slim.

    All you can do is apologize and see where it goes from there. :o
  • Sep 18, 2006, 07:48 AM
    Wildcat21
    I highly doubt it - he broke with you - you did a really imature thing kissing his brother.

    When a person breaks you - you need to end all contact. You did a desperate thing for attention - very unattractive.

    I think it's best you take time for yourself right - figure out whtya pushed him away.

    Cahnces are slim you will ever get him back in the near future.
  • Sep 18, 2006, 06:39 PM
    s_cianci
    At this point your questions are very rhetorical and have no answers. He said he broke up with you because he didn't want a relationship anymore. Fair enough but why wait a year and a half to come to that realization? Furthermore, he had no right going "mad" when you kissed his brother. I hope you didn't kiss his brother just out of spite but the fact remains that he broke up with you so you're fair game. Actually you need to do more stuff like that, which is to say live your life as if he doesn't matter anymore. It's the only what to get him to come back to you if it's meant to be and the only way to get over him if it isn't.
  • Sep 18, 2006, 06:40 PM
    s_cianci
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by CaliforniaOrange
    ^I agree, kissing his brother probably sealed the deal. Based on the limited amount of info given, I'd say your best bet is to give him a few weeks of no contact and then try to sincerely apoligize and be as reasonable as possible...that could work.

    Frankly I'm not so sure she has anything to apologize for, at least not to him. To his brother maybe, but not to him.
  • Sep 19, 2006, 01:09 AM
    Krs
    I agree S_Cianci, I would call this a closed case, and try forget about it, learn from it and not repeat the same mistake. We all learn from our mistakes!
  • Sep 19, 2006, 05:44 AM
    stacey_meacher
    But his brother was telling me that he has a new girlfriend even though his other brother said that he is still single so I don't relly know what to believe.
    His brother made the move to kiss me so it was just something that happened, I was drunk as well.
  • Sep 19, 2006, 05:48 AM
    Krs
    Whether you where drunk or not shouldn't be an excuse.
    You still let him kiss you!

    I would just forget all about it and move on, and try on not mix or mingle with your ex's brothers.
  • Sep 19, 2006, 05:54 AM
    chuff
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by stacey_meacher
    But his brother was telling me that he has a new girlfriend even though his other brother said that he is still single so i dont relly know what to believe.
    His brother made the move to kiss me so it was just something that happened, i was drunk as well.

    Your making excuses. Your making excuses for the relationship, the relationship's demise, your kiss, what your told. It's natural to make excuses to yourself but now you making excuses here. You need to go back and reread what everybody here posted. You need to read it several times until it starts to stink in. It's good advice but your so emotionally broken that your acting desperate to get him back. You've got to pull away and find yourself. You'll like yourself a lot more when the pain isn't so raw.
  • Sep 19, 2006, 08:57 AM
    talaniman
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by stacey_meacher
    Hi

    I just come out of a serious relationship, he split up with me because he didnt want a relationship anymore we were together for a year and a half. i really miss him and i want him back but i went out last weekend and ended up kissing his brother. he found out and went mad. do you think that he will ever get back with me!!!! is there anyway of finding out if he will come back to me or not?

    Thanks

    You missed him so much you kissed his brother? Drunk or no your behavior is something you need to address and make a lot of improvements on. If he has half a brain he will not be back to you. Sorry, you asked and you deserve the truth.

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