So my girlfriend dumped me. Needs SPACE
So my girlfriend after 2 years dumped me recently, we have broken up a few times prior to this a few months ago... I was always mean and aggressive I think I have bipolar or something like that to an effect. Its not just her I was like this to it was everyone. Sometimes I thought it was girlfriend/boyfriend fighting and I wasn't to blame so the first time she cut it off she said it was because I was mean and I made her unhappy (but for almost 2 years before this we had the happiest moments of hour lives, spent every waking minute together... We have the same friends and enemies her house is the party central mostly consisting of kids we both like. She broke it off crying and said she needed SPACE I know such a horrid word. So I agreed (unwillingly) and I gave her 2 days of space, I then called her and said I wanted to see her. So I saw her and we spent a few hours together and then she left... This is where I missed up, I asked her if I could come over later that day. Well she said maybe but she was tired. So I said OK, but I messed up by calling her and telling her how I felt and she was already depressed so she was like (Im upset and I don't want to talk about it right now, I need my space.) So I agreed, she told my friend she would need more then a week to decide.
She told me the night we broke it off that she wasn't interested in being with ANYONE and that she needed time alone/with friends without me to think about stuff, and figure out what makes her happy. So its been 2 days since then and I'm dying inside, I mean everyone's like move on and you're love struck blind... No this girl loves everything I do, we have the same friends, we had great times together... she is very smart and loyal and respectful we like each others families we are inseperaple...
The last time this happened she came back within 3 days (yes I know but this time its different) but this time she seems more sincere because when I see her she seems so sad and out of it I don't know if that's from me or depression I can tell its eating her as bad as me but she is so much stronger not to show it.
So she invites me to come over to her 4:20 party and to hang out a day before that (so we would be hanging out twice in the first week we broke up) and she says that I'm her BEST FRIEND and that she wants to see me become a better person and improve (I need a job too which didn't help, but I managed to grab one the next day we broke up, lucky huh?) She also says she doesn't want to be alone with me (guessing she can't be alone with me thinking how hard it will be and one of us will give in)
She says she cannot be with me right now or she doesn't want to be with me right now... could the be indicitave to she's giving thoughts of being back with me but doesn't want to know or that she just doesn't want to in general?
This girl is of my dreams and I would do anything to get her back, I eat and sleep her. I've been in love before and never felt like this after abreakup, this is true.
I hope we can get back together, I know giving her time is the best bet, but even though she said she doesn't want to date other guys I'm still scared she might catch interest. And I live in a small town so finding unique or different people DOES NOT HAPPEN actually when I met her she had just moved here from NJ so she was new herself.
She's very emotionally detached when she's upset and I didn't help by being a jackass, time and time I told her I ed up and I want to make it better but it seems like she wants me to show her more then tell her. What do I do? And how do I cope? I get sleepless nights, I don't eat... I love games and chilling with friends and both of those aren't enjoyable anymore. Half the time she doesn't answer my texts (probably to give us space) I just don't know anymore. She says she still loves me and cares about me, but she just wants to be friends right now and get space and wants to see me improve.
The EX has made a comeback.
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Ok so here's a brief summary of my last topic:
So me and my girlfriend met after she moved up to Maine from NJ and we had sex the first night we met, about a week later we went out. We were happy for about a year and a half and then we started fighting daily, at first I thought it was me because I have bipolar with no medication so sometimes I explode at little things, but she has the same thing so its mutual.
Well about 1 1/2 years into the relationship she says she needs space and breaks up with me for about 3 days, she calls me on the third day and says we need to talk. She ends up showing up to tell me she kissed a guy and slept in the same bed with him and she made a big mestake and wanted me back, well stupid me fell for her ploy and I went back willinly. Months went by and things didn't get any better, I became jealous and insecure about what she did and started asking questions about it... After awhile I got over it but I pissed her off some during the process.
She then dumped me again after a long party night she stepped on my head on accident and I got up and flipped out (I was still drunk when I woke up) so she told me to leave, so I went home and later that night I showed back up at her house and we got back together the SAME DAY. So 2 nights later we're sitting in her room and she starts crying and says how this isn't going to work and that she's unhappy and needs space.
So I agreed (unwillingly) and we broke it off and I made the mestake and broke NO CONTACT but I managed to salvage it by going NC instantly. So I have my brothers girlfriend CALL her and ask her what she was up to, she says she is at home sick and I figured she was telling the truth. So I find out the next day that, that night she was supposidly home sick and upset she was out at a party with my cousin and best friend and she was sitting on guys laps and **** so my friend says lets leave and they go back to my cousins house.
So my friend leaves and my uncle see my ex and my cousin sleeping together in the morning. So I ask her was up and she says they did stuff and that he's a nice clean guy and she knows she did wrong but she doesn't regret it. Well the most messed up part is her best friend Julia was going out with my cousin and my cousin cried like I did when julia broke up with him and we vented to each other about it... So why would he do that with my ex knowing how I felt? Why would she do that with my cousin knowing how I felt? Her best friend not hates her and my cousin and she has been talking to me making things easier... She told me I shouldn't go back out with her, that she treated me like **** but I'm so scared that a week from now she might go "I miss you and love you and realized this after the breakup. Well she is my first girl I've had sex with (im 20) the first relationship I had, we spent every day and night together. I think sex and lying is the 2 worst things you can do to rebound or take revenge. Sex is like sacred it's a honor for a girl to let a guy in that...
My ex is 2 years younger then me (18) and she had sex with 8 guys before me, and was raped by 2 guys (not at one 2 different ones, party rape and physical rape) so she's obviously a sexual type that's been around compared to me who was a virgin 2 years ago. So let me get to the questions at hand... Also I confronted them the morning my uncle found them I went there and confronted them... I held in my anger and didn't punch him out I just got my words out and left, it was the worst time in my life... but all day I've been with friends and family and I actually feel pretty good there's a party Friday that a bunch of my friends around going to (not at her house at my friends house) so that will help me chill out, I haven't ate much or slept much but I feel every time I do NC with her I feel better.
DID SHE DO ME WRONG? SHOULD I TAKE HER BACK? AM I IN THE RIGHT FOR BEING DEPRESSED?
I mean everyones saying how I should be able to get over her easy but I feel like I would still be with her after this even though I could NEVER trust her again, so I gather that it wouldn't work anyways I just love this girl and I can't be friends with her, but she hangs out with all the same people I do and her house was like the main party spot also this guy,my cousin is a total loser does pills/coke and has never had a job (hes 21) and she had the nerve to call me lazy and say i need a job...