Hi there just want to know, my wife has this guy that works with her at their work place. She keeps saying he is such a nice guy, when ever I'm fetching her at work and when she comes out I watch her closely with out her knowing and I catch her just looking at him and then when I look at her or talk to her she immediately looks at me not knowing that I caught her watching him. Last night we were sitting on the bed just talking about general things and then she starts telling me how this guy and he's wife met. How do I know what's going on?

She sounds infatuated with him.

He is married, hopefully he doesn't share your wife's enthusiasm for her.

Thank you, he is married though and has two kids, to me it just doesn't look right and when I ask her do you like that guy she says no. ever so often she talks about him.

Actions speak louder than words, but like I said hopefully he doesn't return her fantasy.

How has your relationship been before this guy came to work with her? Were you very close with your wife? One possible reason might be that if this man and his wife have a very loving relationship... for example, maybe he has shared how he has done some really special things for his wife, your wife may be wishing that the relationship the two of you have could be more like that. Maybe she is trying to rekindle the spark you once had.

When she talks about him, what does she say about him?

She might just think he is attractive and a nice guy... and that is the extent of it. I would think that if she were interested in him, she would be more likely to not be talking about him, she would be more secretive, trying to hide her attraction.

After you give some thought to what she is sharing when she talks about him, if it still bothers you, let her know that it makes you a little jealous.

He is married. They are only friends. Ask her to introduce him to you.

The thing is she speaks too much about him, last knight I asked her if she likes him, she looks at me and says you jealous and she laughs, I tell her I'm not just concerned and if you do like him then tell me but she just denies it.

Have her invite his wife and kids over for dinner... that way you can see how he is with his wife... and how your wife acts around his...

BUT most important... if your wife does have a crush.. she will see him with his family...

Best of luck to you!