I moved to Thailand to teach English and met a girl. I stayed with her for 3 years but every three months I had to return to the UK to take care of my mother. We had our problems, mainly over her not working and sleeping a lot and her friends were not of my liking. I took care of her and we moved in together. This time I came home and within 1 month I got an email from her that she had met someone new and goodbye. The town I stayed in is quite small but I have work there. I (as usual) planned to go back in 1 months time to resume our relationship and my job. Now I am unsure as to whether I should go back at all. On one hand its as much my town as it is hers but to see her floating round the local bars would be very upsetting to me. I know its all over and although I am heartbroken should I go back. Perhaps its best to never see her again. I feel like -out of sight out of mind and I have been simply been replaced with a new model.
I am angry with her as she said she would wait but what do I do now is my question.

You get a life that makes you happy, somewhere else. Your options are many. Your free to do whatever hits your fancy.

Don't just pick up girl from the bar... look for a decent woman unless you just want sex partner with no string attached.

In Asia, most women want to get married, not just a live-in partner. Have she every considered this?

Why do you want someone that won't work but can find time to hang out with friends? Sounds like she was more into the relationship because you took care of her but not because she cared for you.

Move on and meet someone else. Be glad that she isn't your problem any more.

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Originally Posted by lawanwadee

Don't just pick up girl from the bar......... look for a decent woman unless you just want sex partner with no string attached.

In Asia, most women want to get married, not just a live-in partner. Have she every considered this?

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Thank you for your stereotype. First of all, Asia consists of more than 40 countries, there are thousands of cultures practised and languages spoken there.

I'm Thai, and this issue has been a subject of disgust to me, and I still don't even understand until today.

Yes, I admit there're those bargirls in Thailand and other parts of Asia, but aren't they like EVERYWHERE? And why did you jump into conclusion that the OP's ex is/was a bargirl. I also admit that they're those golddiggers out there who want to trap you in a relationship/marriage because they come from a much poorer background and they see it as a way to get out of their desperate life.

But one thing you said is true, it's a matter of WHAT TYPE of woman and WHERE do you go looking for your love.

I can't understand all those media-hyped books/websites etc that promote such stereotype. Prostitutes are in EVERY COUNTRY. But WHY, WHY do MOST Western guys go for uneducated countryside girls/bargirls?? WHY?? Most of them don't even speak a word of English

Thailand, as a developing country, unfortunately has a HUGE gap of education and wealth. I'm one of the lucky one who has been studying and working abroad. I'm surrounded by my fellow studious Westernised friends. I'm not saying that we're better than those uneducated countryside girls as a person. But for some strange reason these Western guys don't come looking for educated and financially independent ones like us.

Btw, I already have a boyfriend (European) and I DON'T WANT MARRIAGE JUST BECAUSE OF FINANCIAL SECURITY.

To the OP, do you think it's necessary to put 'why my THAI girlfriend.. It doesn't matter what nationality is your girlfriend, you get dumped, then you get dumped... I just think it's sending the wrong message.

My advice, no one here's going to KNOW WHY unless YOU ASK HER. If she avoids you or tell you upfront that she really has someone new, then it's time to move on. (But I can understand the frustration of not getting a closure though).

lawanwadee, I just found out you're also Thai.

My dad is right, in many cases Thais are the ones who put down our fellow gals.

Umm, seeing you're an immigration expert, maybe you only come across the bargirl/countryside types trying to get green card to stay with their stereotypical old/bald/fat American blue collar workers? (no offence to Americans, just pointing out a stereotype)