Relationship thoughts for healing
I am always trying to better my relationships and myself so while I was reflecting today I came up with this thought.
Relationships are like building a beautiful boat; while you are in them you are working at building a solid foundation that will stay afloat even in the storms of life. Many times we build a boat that wasn’t build right and we watch it sink as soon as it sets sail or our mate does not even want to get on the boat in the first place. I am writing this for those of you who have had a good relationship but that person has decided that they need space or time or both. Here is how I see the well know No-contact period and a way to possibly get a little relief or at least knowledge while you go on to heal.
During the break-up up your partner tells you that things are not right for them or they need space or what ever their reason is, honor that. Don’t beg them to stay, just say I totally understand, this is your time to go and figure out what you want. I love you and if I am available should you decided to return I would love to see you again if you have truly figured out that this relationship is what you want and you have solutions that can make this work.
So the time you were with them you were building this beautiful boat and you have put so much effort, time and love into it and now your mate wants to take it for a sail by themselves. Let them go! If you are still contacting them by texting, calling, e-mailing, talking to their friends, family or whoever it is like you are still holding onto a rope and not letting it sail. If you keep holding on your mate will just get off the boat and walk away and you will have built it for nothing. So just let it go, let your mate discover all the beautiful things you created for them out of love on the boat. The art that you picked out, the carvings that show your love and all the unique features that will make them remember and think of you. Don’t worry if they pick up a friend on the way as they will still be on the boat you built for the two of you and you will be on their mind as they think back and compare you to others. If you built a good boat while you were together with love, fun, joy and inner connection than it will stay afloat and sail back to you. If you did not than the boat will sink and you will learn to put more effort into your next relationship. This is your time to get strong and make the changes in your life that will let you jump on the boat when your mate returns or be ready to build a new boat with someone else. Relax as the work you do now prepares for either scenario, so just go inside and get over being controlling or needy and needing to hold onto the rope and all will work out. It is the effort you put into the building of the boat that will bring it back, not anything you can do now. So the lesson is when you are in a relationship, be the best partner you can be and even if after all of that they need to sail on their own, be at peace and know that you have an excellent change of them coming back as long as you let them sail and you work on you so when they return not only are they in a better place but you are their safe harbor to return to. Peace to all of you.
